Anxiety / mild depression

[toddys91]

Hello everyone

I find talking to people about my issues difficult and often joke about my taking “happy pills” to help me get through difficult times.

my main issues are at work where I am constantly on edge, thinking that everyone dislikes me, It appears to me that whenever I speak, eyes roll and often staff just walk away, Just the other day a group of us were “debriefing” about the MAFS episodes, when I said something seemingly harmless about one of the men on the show, everyone simply walked away to their offices. I have spoken to other services and they advised to take up walking which I have done everyday now for over 18 months, I also decided to rescue a dog for company and “unconditional” love, best thing I did for sure. Hubby is very supportive and listens without offering advise. Am interested in hearing from others on how they manage work situations. I have made afforts to find other jobs to no avail. I have been on medication for over 18 months but recently am finding that I am slipping again, taking days off and crying.

thanks all for listening

[Doolhof]

Hi toddys91,

Welcome to the community here. If you don't mind me asking, have you been back to your Dr for a chat recently about how you are feeling?

Relationships and work places can be difficult at times. I read here on the forum recently words someone else had written along the lines of "While we are wondering if other people like us, those same people may be wondering if anyone likes them!"

I know it is hard to do, but trying to not let what other people say or do hurt us is such an uplifting experience.

Can you say to yourself something like, "It doesn't matter how people have reacted. I am a worthwhile person and I am strong". Then put a smile on your face, hold your head high and take a few deep breathes.

I find that I need to find ways to deal with my issues as I can't leave them behind if I don't. Those horrible feelings just keep following me until I deal with them.

I also find writing down all the rubbish thoughts of the day to be helpful. Then I try to think of things to be thankful for as well! It is a good balance then.

Hope some of my ramblings might help in some way!

Cheers from Dools

[grilledcheese]

Hey! I'm not sure if this is something that is feasible in your situation but I feel like it might be worth a shot. Have you considered speaking to a manager or HR rep at work? Not to complain about other people but rather to ask them if they are aware of why others may feel certain ways towards you. Of course it ultimately shouldn't matter what they think but if you could get some insight into this it may just help to make it a little easier to avoid situations that make things worse for you. People will be insensitive and communicate badly sometimes and there's not an awful lot we can do to change that, but if you can see what is bothering them it may help?

Good luck!