I broke up with my therapist - she won't let me go.
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Hey,I broke up with my therapist just over a week ago due to our therapy becoming stagnant and my inability to move forward in my recovery. I had been seeing her for six months and felt from the start that perhaps we weren't a great fit, however want... View more
Hey,I broke up with my therapist just over a week ago due to our therapy becoming stagnant and my inability to move forward in my recovery. I had been seeing her for six months and felt from the start that perhaps we weren't a great fit, however wanted to take some time to give our therapeutic relationship a chance. Over the last couple of months, I lost all motivation in attending my appointments and found I was dissociating during the sessions I would make the effort to go in for. It was then I knew that not only was it best for me that we closed this chapter, but also for her, knowing that there could be a client that really gels with her on the waiting list that could get a lot out of her support. So I sent her a text and asked for a final session to wrap-up our time together. She obliged and everything seemed fine - we had our session and said our goodbyes and well wishes. I felt incredibly proud that I advocated for myself and was honest in my feedback. However, the next day she sends me a text informing me that she decided she wants to continue seeing me because she cares for me, and so had reserved two appointments to get back into the swing of things. I was completely taken aback. I thought we had both mutually agreed and accepted that we had finished up. I messaged her back the following day thanking her for her kind words and for offering to continue seeing me, but that I was content on leaving things where they were. I reminded her I have my GP and dual diagnosis counsellor to support me until I find someone new, and that I would appreciate if she cancelled the appointments and closed my file. She responded today informing me she would not cancel the appointments and would still like to see me. This whole situation has impacted further on my mental health and I just don't know what to do. There's only so many times I can politely ask her to close my file. Any advice would be super appreciated.