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BPDgirl88 Got BPD, need some advice…
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I got BPD and is unsure of what to do, where to get help and what kind of help do one need to cope with this problem., I think distraction is the one of the best way in getting thru that aweful wave… I do feel that mine lasts longer than it should by... View more

I got BPD and is unsure of what to do, where to get help and what kind of help do one need to cope with this problem., I think distraction is the one of the best way in getting thru that aweful wave… I do feel that mine lasts longer than it should by the time it’s about to pass a new one starts… just don’t know how to distract myself when I’m too caught up with the idea of SH and/or suicide… I think I’ve said it before that I’m currently doing DBT group in the community and we’re on the last part of it which is interpersonal relationships… so far I’ve tried doing the skills I’ve learned but I think if I give it time I will get better in using them for when I need it… just haven’t worked out when exactly I should start using these tools., was just wondering if anyone has tried the schema therapy and the mentalisation therapy? Are they both helpful? And will it beneficial for someone who has BPD to do these other therapy? Also, is anyone taking some medications to help alleviate the symptoms? If so, what are they?

Caite Serotonin Syndrome & Histamine Intolerance
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Hey All, Just wondering if anyone has ever had to detox serotonin and histamine before and what has been your experience? I recently came off my anxiety medication after 5 years and have been flooded with too much of both, I’m just over a week into t... View more

Hey All, Just wondering if anyone has ever had to detox serotonin and histamine before and what has been your experience? I recently came off my anxiety medication after 5 years and have been flooded with too much of both, I’m just over a week into the detox and Im trying very hard to stick to it but it’s been a real struggle Thanks in advance

Losttwentysomething_ Do I need to continue going to therapy? Or am I just being selfish and over focused on myself?
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I am questioning whether I need to continue on with therapy, I have just finished 10 sessions with a psychologist that specializes in EMDR therapy and unfortunately that is the only therapy that she offers, I am unsure if it really helped looking bac... View more

I am questioning whether I need to continue on with therapy, I have just finished 10 sessions with a psychologist that specializes in EMDR therapy and unfortunately that is the only therapy that she offers, I am unsure if it really helped looking back, I ended up feeling worse after my sessions and found it hard to feel better about myself afterwards I would like someone to talk to about my worries or concerns without having to go my family and friends about them all the time. I have been told in the past by a previous counselor that I am being too hard on myself and that I put too much pressure on myself, when I questioned on how do I stop doing that I never really got an answer, just constant cycle of being told to do breathing, grounding techniques and to 'do something you enjoy', journalling, etc I recently had a good few months where I was keeping busy with work and social events that my need to panic and cry all the time kinda subsided which was a surprise, I haven't really had a good period of my life where this happened or when I did it was only ever a few days or so before being sucked back into my usual panicking, excessive worrying,'not trying hard enough' self. I constantly question if I am 'doing enough in life' I see job adverts for positions that sound more appealing than my current job/s and question if I should apply for it, or suck it up and be grateful for what I have, even if the job bores me, I question if I am doing enough in my social life and if I should be doing more hobbies as that is the advice I am given if I want to make more friends ('put yourself out there'), make myself do stuff for the sake of it. On my hand I should be grateful for what I have in life but that nagging voice and other peoples comments make me question if I am doing enough and what else I could be doing to better myself

1totallylost1 Daughters psychologist pushing personal opinions and ignoring severity of condition
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First time, first post. Apologies if this has been discussed before.My 18yr old daughter has severe social anxiety. Diagnosed, and treatment for over 5 years. Her condition has had profound effect on her life already, including the necessity of home ... View more

First time, first post. Apologies if this has been discussed before.My 18yr old daughter has severe social anxiety. Diagnosed, and treatment for over 5 years. Her condition has had profound effect on her life already, including the necessity of home schooling. This has all been documented by her G.P. As she is now 18 there is the pressure of finding and maintaining a job. The very thought of this puts her in a spiral and causes physical reactions, vomiting being just one. She is very keen to get a job and gain some control over her anxiety. To help relieve the stress and anxiety surrounding the process we would like to try to apply for the DSP. We understand this would be temporary, the decision is reviewed by c/link every two years. Compounding the issue further is our location. We live in a very small rural town, the job opportunities are extremely limited and the added anxiety of needing to interact with people she knows is a stress she isn't handling well.She regularly sees a psychologist, and takes her medication every day. She does not want to hide under her blankets for the rest of her life. Unfortunately her psychologist is more interested in pushing their own personal experiences and opinions than looking at the issue as a whole. The psychologist was out of home at 18, so according to them, so should my daughter. I understand confidentiality to a point, but I don't know if I can state the things my daughter has told me this "young persons health professional" has said to her. One thing I feel is important to share is, apparently, based on my daughters "looks" she should be out in the world. The psychologist has flat out refused to support an application for DSP. I don't know if this is the end of the road as far as that goes, or is there something/somewhere else I can go to try and advocate for my daughter. I am extremely concerned about repercussions if we are to pursue a second opinion. If anyone is able to help point me in the right direction, I would appreciate it beyond words.I suffer with mental health issues as well. Sadly this makes the whole thing so much more difficult. What may seem like the most obvious answer, won't occur to me. My brain works like a formula 1 car attacking mount panorama, it will go round and round and round until it crashes or wins the race. Right now, I see the obstacles coming at me at full speed and I can't, won't let my daughter down.

guy-95 Porn ruining our relationship
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I’m struggling big time, all my fault I know. I’ve watched porn for many years relatively frequently (3-4 times/week). I’m now in a relationship of almost 2 years and after about a year I mentioned to my girlfriend that I watched it (thinking it was ... View more

I’m struggling big time, all my fault I know. I’ve watched porn for many years relatively frequently (3-4 times/week). I’m now in a relationship of almost 2 years and after about a year I mentioned to my girlfriend that I watched it (thinking it was normal). Understandably she was very upset at this so I said that I wouldn’t watch anymore, fast forward five months and she asked how I was going with it and I admitted I had been watching it (less frequently) and again she was understandably very upset I thought that was it for us so I stupidly lied and told her I only looked once in that time, but then got caught out that it was actually more. About 3 weeks after that talk I watched a raunchy YouTube video which led to nude pictures, and now 3 months later she had found out and I stupidly again lied about it (not knowing she had found it). I know I am not good enough for her but I have damaged her so much. I’ve since created a heap of website and internet blocking schemes and I know in myself that I can stop, given the reduction in frequency of consumption (and I had in the past when it was taking over me as a tennager), but it’s the lies that I continue to spit expecting that will make things sound a bit better. Im 90% sure she will have left me by the time I get home from work today. I haven’t been able to eat or to sleep longer than 2 hours in the last 2 days. I don’t really know what im asking for maybe just an outside perspective. I feel this is the massive wake up call I need but I also feel it’s just too late. Advice or similar accounts or anything would be welcomed and appreciated.

Idkme EMDR.... what’s your views/opinions/experiences.....
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I’ve read a bit about EMDR lately and wondered if others have used it or heard about it with dealing with complex trauma? My issue I’d be worried about is focusing on one key moment because there were lots of ‘moments’ for me... curious to know peopl... View more

I’ve read a bit about EMDR lately and wondered if others have used it or heard about it with dealing with complex trauma? My issue I’d be worried about is focusing on one key moment because there were lots of ‘moments’ for me... curious to know peoples experiences....

Eagle Ray EMDR for protracted grief?
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Hi, I’m just wondering if anyone else has tried EMDR for protracted grief? My psychologist suggested it as something I could try at my next session with her. I’ve done somatic experiencing with her and it’s been very successful at processing and taki... View more

Hi, I’m just wondering if anyone else has tried EMDR for protracted grief? My psychologist suggested it as something I could try at my next session with her. I’ve done somatic experiencing with her and it’s been very successful at processing and taking the charge out of specific traumatic events. I’d read about the method beforehand and it really resonated with me. I went into it feeling confident in it and I got good results. EMDR, on the other hand, I actually feel scared of and I’m trying to figure out why. I’ve read a bit about it and understand it’s connected with the reprocessing of memories through forms of bilateral stimulation. I’ve read it has a good evidence base in relation to PTSD. I’d be interested to hear anyone’s experiences with EMDR in relation to grief, especially protracted, complicated grief.

Lui ADHD costs
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I've discovered it's ADHD that has caused my anxiety/depression for my 58 years of life! But the costs are killing me! The psychiatrist wants me to get a second opinion, and then back to him again. It's so expensive. i have been able to work for more... View more

I've discovered it's ADHD that has caused my anxiety/depression for my 58 years of life! But the costs are killing me! The psychiatrist wants me to get a second opinion, and then back to him again. It's so expensive. i have been able to work for more than 30 years due to this, how are we supposed to afford it? Is there anywhere, any way we can get some back? Medicare only covers a small part of it

rixon My antidepressant turned my natural lean muscle tone into fat and its not getting better :(
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Hello there, I’m a 34 year old male who started taking medication to treat my anxiety and depression in early December 2018. I took one tablet a day for just a month before stopping. Although I could definitely feel the treatment was helping my mood,... View more

Hello there, I’m a 34 year old male who started taking medication to treat my anxiety and depression in early December 2018. I took one tablet a day for just a month before stopping. Although I could definitely feel the treatment was helping my mood, I noticed that the composition of my body began to change quickly. I began to lose my naturally lean muscle in my arms and chest and grow a layer of fat (giving me a man boob look). My stomach muscles also became incredibly soft and lost all their natural tone. It actually seemed like all of the muscles in my body softened considerably in just a matter of weeks. I did not make any modifications to my diet or exercise habits during this period, leading me to believe that these changes can only be related to this medication. Also, rather than putting on weight (which was what I was initially concerned about), I have lost several kilograms. I assume this is because I have lost muscle mass but I cannot be sure. I was worried that this medication may have affected my hormone levels (mainly testosterone), but all my tests have apparently come back normal. My doctor is perplexed at what has happened to my body in such a small space of time as there is no mention of muscle determination/fat accumulation in the listed side effects. Also, other than a couple of anecdotal reports, there is very little information about this phenomenon online. It has now been over 2 months since I have stopped this medication, and despite my regular cardiovascular exercise, weight training and healthy eating the problem has not resolved. I feel very self-conscious about what has happened to my body (particularly my chest) and feel even worse than I did before starting the medication. I worry that my body composition may have now permanently changed or will at least remain in such a state for a long time. Has anyone experienced or come across anything like I have described? If so, what more can I do to try and recover from this? Thank you Ricky

anonymous_00 I think that I have a narcissistic partner or emotionally abusive partner
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I have been in a relationship with my partner for 15 to 16 years. It's a same sex relationship. We have two kids together (one has autism). I am the main care giver for our youngest child with autism. I'm the biological mum for our youngest kid.I fee... View more

I have been in a relationship with my partner for 15 to 16 years. It's a same sex relationship. We have two kids together (one has autism). I am the main care giver for our youngest child with autism. I'm the biological mum for our youngest kid.I feel really unhappy in the relationship. She constantly puts me down, blames me, and attacks me. It's always in private, although she tends to infer to our friends she's unhappy with me as a person/partner. But the nasty stuff is ONLY in private. On the outside, she is a very charming, friendly "lovely" person.She tells me fairly consistently that "all my friends hate you". Or, "all my friends are concerned about me being with you". She also says the kids are scared of me (this is an outright lie, I have a fantastic relationship with my kids).Sometimes she makes me feel very unwelcome in my home or feel very scared (as in, what mean/nasty thing is coming now). sometimes it's a monologue full of nasty things.She lies about what she says - so she will say something and 5 minutes later, deny she said it. She says I made it up. It makes me feel like I'm going crazy!She never apologises for anything and if I get mad and say okay enough/or you can't speak to me in this way - then the relationship is over. She's leaving etc. I get very scared about this because I want to live with my kids. I REALLY WANT to live with my kids. My youngest with autism would significantly struggle without me. So I put up with it. I don't know what to do. I tell myself to "take the hit and get on with it".The only way to "manage" her is to grovel, don't complain, don't ever say you're unhappy -- pretend you're happy (this is what I do usually). I feel like a shell of a person. I feel inauthentic because nobody knows how I really feel. I'm writing this because I felt suicidal last week (I'll never do this though, it was a fleeting thought - as in, I know a way to end this pain! - but obviously I would never leave my children) - but I'm just saying I feel extremely sad and distressed.I wonder if that's bad for the kids even though I do my best to shield them from it. That's why I am still here! I'm trying to shield them! I suspect/fear that she'll go crazy if I leave (but I can't leave my kids anyway). I know there's no easy answer. If I got lawyers, this would make her "rage".Sharing this here as a first step.