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[boatee]

had anxiety/depression for years,on AD meds,had bad time over past 3 months,have been tried on 2 stronger ADs,but due to history of reflux,both new ADs set reflux off massively,GP says might try another one,but have hypochondriasis as well,so not helping at present,and i know its trial & error,but anyone got some advice,all help appreciated,take meds for reflux

[boatee]

went to gp fri arvo,had follow up from hospital team sat morn,neither had updated info on meds[still taking them till i'm told any different],get r eye fixed this wed,should take some pressure off,& then can work on couple other problems,still trying to take those little steps forward,hard at moment with other family problems on going,but with support will do best to get ahead,but all advice very much appreciated,boatee

[MarkJT]

boatee, those small steps are working well and your mindset is good.

Nothing new on meds is a good thing. Means that they are settling in well.

What are you getting done with the right eye? Good to hear what ever it is, it is getting fixed and take some pressure off. Another little step taken in the right direction.

Take each problem as it arises - don't take them all on at once as that will only serve to overload you.

Just keep doing what you are doing, small steps - i know it is cliche, but it is cliche for a reason - because it works.

Mark

[boatee]

mark,found out last xmas that had cataracts on both eyes,progressed rapidly to the point of no driving[didn't help mental problem,lost independence],had left eye done 6 weeks ago[brilliant],right eye tomorrow[wed],hopefully will help with anxiety/depression,see gp friday arvo,need scans on left shoulder[2 ops already] & left side of neck to make sure nothing untoward going on so that i can help my head & health get back in the game,, get some fitness[swimming most of my life],to go forward in little steps,plus counsellor going away for 3 weeks,found male psychologist close to home,asking if i can see him,what he can do,may work out better,who knows,boatee

[MarkJT]

boatee, that is great that the left eye is working well so hopefully the right one follows suit. Best of luck with the work that is being done tomorrow.

Looking forward to you getting back into the pool as exercise is just so critical to good mental health.

I was feeling pretty ordinary this morning until i went for a nice run and then stretched listening to music and then felt much better.

Just want to reinforce that you are making good decisions, things are moving along and to keep going. It is each step at a time and once they all fall into place, then we really start recovering.

Great stuff.

Mark.

[boatee]

eye done,will know tomorrow if ok,but come home this arvo feeling little slow,but then stuff to do with eldest daughter surfaced,& living with parents & sister here put me in bad place again,they don't understand,that if she won't help herself,what do you do,i've tried my hardest,but had to distance myself from her,but the subject keeps coming up,not doing my head space any favours & i can't go anywhere else except back to hospital if they don't listen,& yes i know they're worried about her,but you can't get through to her,hoping this is the kick in the backside she needed & starts listening,can't handle it,had it with her,destroying family,boatee

[MarkJT]

boatee, hope that eye is now working well to match the other one and you can tick that off the things to fix.

One of the questions i get most commonly asked is how do you help someone who doesn't want to be helped. I have no real good quality answer as it is just so exceedingly difficult to do.

You are obviously treading a very fine line with your own health and your daughters health providing clashing priorities. Your own health is everything as without it, it is bloody hard to help other people without your health also deteriorating further.

I am confused as to the living arrangements you have described above.

Are you living with your sister and parents or is that your daughter?

Has she been diagnosed with anything? i.e. has she seen a GP or psych?

Mark.

[boatee]

hi mark,sorry about confusion,i live with parents,23yr old daughter & her son,older daughter was living with her kids & was told by a gp nearly 12mths ago that she needed to see someone about her mental health,but didn't do as asked[listened to her friends] now where at this spot because she won't listen to myself or any family,putting massive strain on family,hopefully hospital has done something to help her,eye going ok at moment,takes couple of days for them to fully adjust,but i ended back at hospital wednesday night looking to get put back in mental ward,didn't have a spot,but they kept me there so i could settle,will check up on me & if i'm still feeling low & a bed is free,they may re-admit me for however long is needed,also found an actupunturist who does similar things to my counsellor,but going to try new ways to help me through my mental problems, & give me things to try at home to help me get better,can only try,boatee

[MarkJT]

boatee, no need to apologise mate. My scrambled brain might have been able to read it right!!

Really like your post mate. The thought of going back to hospital can put a lot of people off and will shy away from doing that but you, by all appearances are happy, well not happy per se, but you have recognised that a hospital stay would be beneficial and that is a great thing. Really tells me that you are taking your mental health seriously. Great stuff.

Really hard when someone doesn't want to be treated. I assume that your other daughter has spoken to her? I think that you need to set a boundary with her as your own health is priority number one. If she is causing you so much grief, somehow you need to put her out of your thoughts and concentrate on you. I say this as once you are feeling quite good about yourself then you can put some quality time into the daughter.

Hope the eye is going well.

Mark

[boatee]

hi mark,eyes going great at present time,still waiting to hear from counsellor,but wasn't feeling good sunday night after seeing one of my mates,i know he understands at times that i'm struggling,& he's on his own[thai girlfriend who i know he misses],but sunday arvo just caught me by suprise,& yes, he does have his own problems,i understand that and try to help him where possible,but he didn't seem to be himself & i agreed with him that i've become a hypochodriac lately & said trying to work through it,but then he started on about,because i haven't worked for years, i'm getting medical things done for near nothing & because he's working,he can't get his medical problems fixed without paying for it, & is in a fund,but even so,he still has to find extra funds to cover the gap,plus few other thing were said,but like i said,i don't think he really realises just how bad the last ten years have destroyed my confidence,but hoping wednesdays visit to acupuncturist will help me get this little thought that's holding me back changed so i can go forward,little steps,boatee

[MarkJT]

boatee, other people's problems are not your problems and i say that with respect to your mate. The welfare system is set up so that those that are not working can get medical procedures done and those that are working can pay. Also there is private medical insurance as well to cover large amounts of costs associated with medical matters. You cannot be held responsible for the system that is in place.

What have you become a hypochondriac about?

can you separate what the major things you need to get fixed and the minor ones?

Mark