Worried mum post suicide attempt by daughter

Lisathecat
Community Member

Hi I am asking for advice as to the best way to support my daughter post suicide attempt. Do I just support her and best way to cope myself? 

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white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi, welcome

 

I'm sorry this has occurred. I've had a brother and uncle pass away that way and my sister and I have both made attempts. We have bipolar in our family so up to 20% of us could pass this way.

 

So that support (if she allows) could include attending medical appointments followed always with a happy event like window shopping and a cuppa at a cafe. The balance from a challenge to a no stress activity can be a key routine.

 

When daughter is upset, crying, etc a hand on the shoulder is at times better than a "I have to fix this with conversation technique". That takes judgement and restraint. Not easy as you being a loving parent you want to "save her world".

 

The same blend comes in self support, all that giving to her need the balance for you, visit friends, a hobby at home, get Netflix, join a support group. etc. 

 

The last thing that comes to mind is if she has anger maybe due to life not working out for her. She could-

 

  • become a member here to discuss her mental health issues, we are here 24/7/365
  • Allow her to be angry, vent, keep your voice low and calm. You might find her collapsing into your arms when she realises you are her best friend.
  • Slowly introduce to her ideas like getting a passion, encourage her to join a group, etc.
  • Take her to comedy shows.
  • Build her self esteem like discussions about fashion, hairstyles etc. 
  • Read! we have an amazing library here just type in search the words

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/motivation-search-and-rescue-it/td-p/38279

 

Threads like that one above is easily available.

 

I hope that helped. We are here for you and your daughter.

 

TonyWK