Dear Sunny Dayz. Congrats on wanting to support your hubby, unconditionally. Having said that, now, you have to take care of you. You have offered to go to the Dr's with your hubby (should he ask). You've asked what more can you do; the short answer is: nothing. The rest is now up to him. Whatever happens now is really between him and Dr. If the Dr prescribes different meds for him, you could ask him how he's feeling after say 7 days. Make a note of his reactions to things you say/do. Make a note of how he behaves around the children. Monitor (quietly) when/if he takes his meds as required. He will probably have to revisit Dr to discuss how he's coping with new meds, ask if you can go with him. If the Dr asks how he's feeling and coping generally, let him speak, try (discreetly) letting the Dr know (from your point of view) how he's coping. Possibly try getting the note to the Dr before hubby visits Dr, that way, if hubby says he doesn't want you to go with him, Dr has an idea how things are going. The Dr can only get an idea how things are going from the visits and what your hubby chooses to tell him. If your hubby is less than honest with the Dr, he won't be able to help. The only way the Dr will 'pick up' on what's really happening, is if your hubby is totally honest. Dr's only have a set amount of time with each patient. You know whether your hubby will be totally honest, you know how much the Dr needs to know. Try including your hubby when you and kids have quality time, if hubby wants. Take care of you though. You are just as important.
