Dear Rexi. You have so much on your plate, your hubby can't handle the stress of a newborn, you're having difficulties yourself, adjusting to a completely new person to care for. I don't know the area you're living, but is there a day care service near. Perhaps if you get online or maybe discuss with your G.P, you could get some help with bubby. Once you have baby in a routine, you would then be able to show hubby that having a baby can be fun. I'm wondering if hubby is a bit scared of being around a newborn. He may be feeling that if he touches the baby in the 'wrong' way, he may hurt him without wanting to. The depression could have been brought on by a combination of worry over how to care for baby and you (if you get sick), plus worry about hurting the baby somehow. You need support from other mother's to help you get confident, once hubby realises everything's fine with you and baby, he will probably want to return. As far as drinking while taking anti-depressants, only he has the ability to regain control of that. I agree it is a worry, I would perhaps consider discussing it with G.P and get some advice from him/her. Hubby possibly realises how dangerous it is, but once you start that spiral, it's extremely hard to break the cycle. He needs professional help, a G.P might be able to guide him. Try suggesting he talk to his G.P, without condemning him for having the problem. Perhaps Relationships Australia could help with counselling him for depression, which in turn could break the pattern of drinking.
Keep in touch, if BB can help more, we will.
