Hi. From what you say, I would say Depression with a capital D. Is he on meds? Maybe he's become 'immune' to them. Do you have a G.P, I would suggest a visit quick smart, for both of you. How long have you been together, what are your age groups? If he's depressed, he won't want to talk until he knows what's causing the depression. Does he work, perhaps problems there he doesn't or can't talk about. Does he have any sort of outlet for built-up frustration. With women, we talk to girlfriends/family/our hairdresser. With men, they're taught 'men don't wear your hearts on your sleeve'. They find it hard to open up because they're conditioned not to. If it is sexual, maybe he feels inadequate. I think you need to talk to a counsellor to get some strategies on how to communicate in your husband's language. The more you 'nag' him (sorry about that word), the more he'll 'close shop'. My dad was a very private person too, mum just had to leave him to sort himself out, his way. Sorry I can't offer any other help.
