Hi alleycat,
Welcome to the forum 🙂
I'm sorry to hear your friend is depressed, and that your anxiety is harder to manage now. If you feel you're slipping into depression, definitely get help. If you don't mind me asking, have you seen a doctor (GP) or another medical professional about the anxiety before? Making an appointment with a GP is crucial. Tell them about your symptoms and how you've been feeling.
It's good that you have been a loyal friend, but as you recognize, your own wellbeing has been jeopardised as a result. This is a tricky situation. Is it possible for you to start talking to an old friend again sometimes, such as in class (assuming you're at school)? Your friend would care about you, but it probably doesn't seem that way because of the depressive illness she's suffering from. Depression often negatively affects how people interact with others. If you want more information on depression or anxiety, go to the blue menu bar on this site, go to 'The facts', and scroll down to find the option you want.
Going to see a school counsellor (still see your GP) is also an option. You could mention it to your friend. If you say you might go, then she is less likely to get defensive and feel embarrassed about seeing the counsellor.
It would be great to hear back from you 🙂
Best wishes,
SM
