Hi everyone,
I'm reaching out, in the hope that others might be able to give me some insight or needed support. I went travelling overseas a few months ago and fell in love with a man over there. He was everything I was looking for, caring, kind, charming and we could talk about anything....so easily. He told me from the beginning that he was a recovering alcoholic and he goes to AA at least once a week or more if he needs it. He also told me that he'd had a terrible breakup with a woman who had treated him terribly at the end, that he was on suicide watch a year earlier because if it, and he had a 10 year old daughter who he didn't see because he didn't get along with the mother. My heart went out to him with compassion. I didn't judged, I had absolute respect for him for opening up and being so honest. He told me he'd never felt like this before, that he was in love with me on the second date, that he could see a future with me, we were soul mates..anyway..I fell pregnant to him after being together for 2 weeks, which was a miracle because I have fertility issues. I never wanted to out him or any man into that position and I told him my views on that before we slept together. I didn't know I was pregnant until I was 5 weeks. Within that time, he started to change. He'd get angry and tell me that I wasn't thinking about his feelings enough, that I should be sorry for things that weren't my fault, he'd break up with me over nothing at all, go to a AA meeting then call and apologise..i tried to make it work with everything I had. When I found out I was pregnant I was in shock, he was in shock. I couldn't terminate it, and he told me I was just like the mother if his daughter, that I was doing this to him to ruin his life, and his sobriety, what kind if a sick person does that to another person. The accusations just got worse and worse. I flew home to look after the pregnancy, I was traumatised by it all. Emails flew thick and fast from him. Sometimes 8 a day. He'd accuse me of something, go off. Then ignore me, then come back and tell me he misses me and the baby, I'd tell him he needs to get therapy before I can have him in my life. I told him I spoke to 2 psychologists to get there opinion on the situation and they both said they think it sounds like he has BPD. I told him this, not to hurt him, but so he'd get help. Instead Now he's completely shut down. No email responses, blocking me on fb,not returning phone calls. I'm pregnant, alone. What do I do?
