My 17 year old son is suffering from anxiety and low self esteem and I need to know how to help him

[Ladders]

Hi my son is about to start HSC and he has been unfocused and hardly studying just holed up in his room playing play station. Last night after a lot of probing from me, he opened up about not caring about anything and looking forward to nothing. He discussed how he has anxiety in social situations and assumes that nobody likes him. He talked about struggling to have conversations with his friends and making excuses to avoid social situations. He told me he has always felt like this but theses feelings and anxiety levels are getting worse. Apart from the immediate concern I have due to HSC starting tomorrow, how can I get him help. And is this normal in teenagers?

[Mia001]

Hi Ladders,

Welcome to the forums and good on you for seeking help! I've found these forums a great nonjudgmental place to talk about my issues, and I really hope it's the same for you.

Just a bit of background... I'm 17, was homeschooled and now work in fast food. My dream is to be a nurse in E.D. I'm currently seeing a sexual assault counsellor and experience some depression and anxiety.

So... I'm no expert on mental health but hopefully I can help.

First thing I wanted to say was its great that your son felt comfortable enough to open up to you. It's a hard thing to do. Good on you for starting the conversation too! You sound like a very caring and responsible parent.

His anxiety is definitely affecting his life. I can see how worrying this must be with the HSC coming up too. What I would suggest is seek professional help. Would you consider asking him to see a school counsellor? You could also go to your GP and they can refer you to a psychologist. Also, you may also be eligible for a MHCP which provides about 10 free/reduced cost sessions. This is something you'd have to discuss with the GP.

The only other thing I can say is... be there for him. Admitting he needs help is likely very awkward for him and he needs your support too.

I would love to hear back from you if you're comfortable talking more.

All the best,

Mia

[kanga_brumby]

Hi Ladders as mia has said welcome to beyond blue forums. Mia gave good advice in advising you to be there for your son. Also talking to a gp could be helpful. A physiologist may be also helpful in bringing him out a bit more toward forming friendships with others. It's worth a try, good luck

Kanga

[Mia001]

Hi Ladders,

Just wondering how you are going?

Mia