Hi
im not quite sure where to start so here goes!
My husband and I have been married almost 6 yrs and together for 11. We have an almost 4 yo daughter and I'm 32wks pregnant. About 4 weeks ago my husband just 'let it out' that he wasn't happy. We had a few conversations and these were some of the phrases that he used:
"I don't know who I am anymore"
" I love you but not like I should. You are my best friend"
"I've been trying to do the right thing by everyone else and ignoring me. It's eating me away".
He decided he needed some space so I took our daughter to visit family for 2 weeks. When we came back he was still in 'that' space. He has a stressful job and works such long hours 6 days a week. He interacts with our daughter as normal and is fine with friends/work mates etc but with me, it's like he has put up a stone wall. He will talk and everything as though we are friends and it is like I'm living with a housemate rather than husband.
he shows me very little emotional attachment at all except if he wants to have sex.
He is seeing someone for some help and I know there is a family history of depression in his family.
I wil also say that after our daughter was born he also needed time as he didn't know what he wanted. However he came back home after 2/3weeks. This time it has been going on for just over a month.
I'm just not sure where to go from here? We did suggest we just cool off and have this baby and get it all settled in then put our cards back on the table but I didn't realise it would be so hard, especially being pregnant.
I don't even know what I'm asking. I guess I'm just wondering is it typical behaviour for him to do this?
Thanks for listening to me waffle on!
Mrs L
