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I am the Cancer in my partners life
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I have been with my partner for nearly 11 yrs
and love him deeply .. But it's getting to the point I want to RUN... I have always from day one know there was an underlying issue with him by the statements he makes & how everyone has done him wrong .. Tho I thought I could change that with love and surport .. Suggestive changes about letting go ... My man is a self starter and stylish person who coming from a large family and being a twin .. Yes .. Intelligent go getter .. But faced lots of hard knocks in life. Gets up and goes on .. Tho never at fault as he is the good guy .
i have tried always to see the other beautiful side of him hopping that he will let go .
because I know the beautiful side of him and my nature I have givern in ..the vile and hatred he throws at me and always my fault is starting to take its toll and I am ready to run .. But I cant
never his fault ... I've realised our friends are gone and his behaviour is getting worse .. Spoiled brat would best describe it ..
I have suffered a business loss and unfortunately him a illness so that alone doesn't help .. Nothing I do is ever good enough
he wants to end it and then has a plan on what I need to do to make him happy
guidance please ..
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Hi Jackluv, welcome to beyond Blue forums.
This topic is suggestive meaning any answer is based on opinion but I'll comment where I think I can.
In my experience families have various traits. Some good traits and some bad. I knew one family whereby every sibling had one bad trait- they were never wrong AND if proven wrong would never apologise nor even acknowledge they were in error. This of course made any marital situation with any of the 5 siblings- untenable and all 5 divorced over the years, including mine marriage for I married the youngest daughter.
I would suggest however that you seek out family counselling. Not only could they help with your current situation but if you did separate you would feel far less grief and guilt, possible if you left in haste.
It's your call. Take care.
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