I have a younger brother who is about 65 years old. He destroyed his marriage and relationships with his immediate family (children/grandchildren) some 5 or so years ago by gambling his and his wife's savings away. He is an habitual liar, telling all sorts of stories to make out he is doing well and very successful in life.
Last Christmas he had a heart issue and was admitted to Intensive care for a few weeks. I was notified within minutes of flying overseas with my wife (He listed me as next of kin because no-one else in the family will have anything to do with him). He is now recovered and living in a men's refuge style of accommodation, although he tells me he has bought and living in his own unit. He had a relationship with a woman who has contacted me saying she has serious concerns about his deluded behaviour. She has sent deliveries of food and clothes to him as she visited him earlier in the year as a surprise, and was shocked at the poor quality of accommodation he is in.
He arrived at my older brother's (Noel) home on Friday night for an overnight stay en-route to catching up with mates in Melbourne. My older brother rang me to say he was shocked and very concerned at Steve's mental and physical state. When Steve talks to me by sms or phone, he makes out he is working, earning a good income, has recovered and walks 3-5 kms per day. However Noel said he could not walk 100 metres without struggling due to swollen legs and ankles, and Steve bragged about how he is living with 3 mates, has ahuge superannuation savings, is well supported by Centrelink and some side hussle he has (we think he is gambling still).
I have tried getting mental health support for him in NSW but he refuses, saying he is fine.I am concerned an not sure what I can do as I am in Brisbane caring for my very ill wife. I am fearing he will end up like his older brother who died 2 years ago after he suffered serious bi-polar and delusional behaviour, and ended up in an older men's care centre in Queensland.
I would be open to any guidance or advice here
