So I have a little back story that I think is relevant to the now:
i was with my partner for seven years prior to a little breakup, a then reconnection, and then my year abroad.
within the first few months of my time away, my partner (who I generally spend days on days with) started declining to talk, announcing that on that day we didn't feel right, but that would change the next time we spoke (weeks later, on his terms)
We eventually broke up, he didn't speak with me excluding the 3 times he confessed his love to me, but he was with someone at the time.
this person is also possibly important, because she's 5 years younger than both of us (she just turned 19) and completely out of the close friendship circle we shared. During the time they were together, he didn't really maintain contact with me or our friends.
he expressed he was struggling emotionally throughout the year, and I guess that's why I kept allowing his actions, but not without some angry emails or snarky remarks on occasion.
im now home, and he broke up with this person and said he had always loved me, but felt lonely and liked having her around.
but every couple of days he expresses these feelings that things have changed, and he feels pressure to talk about anything to do with the future, and says that he misses her.
Now he isn't on medication or seeing someone, but I have spoke with him occasionally about it, and I think he might tomorrow. But I want to see if anyone shares my thoughts, or if maybe I shouldn't try with the relationship.
I feel like this person helped him escape feeling many things, and acknowledging guilt for how he treated people (because she runs in an entirely different crowd) and on his good days, we can talk about that relationship, and he tells me he didn't see a future.
i don't know, I feel like I'm making him feel too much, and maybe being with someone that (if I'm honest) I don't think he cares as much for, might be better for him now. I think I just remind him of his really bad days this last year, when he said mean things.
i think I expect too much of him, and that's obviously too hard for him to live with now.
