dear Wornoutmum, I pressed something which I shouldn't have, but I'm so sorry to not have replied to you sooner, but thankfully Amber and Grabavoice have which is great.
Excuse me but I didn't know what CYMS stood for found out what CYMHS is ( Child Youth Mental Health Service).
I know what a mum or dad has to try and do to help their children along their long journey and even up to when they become adults, because it's never easy, and as generations change so does our effort to help them also change, just as their education and professional help becomes more complicated and even harder to cope with.
Kids these days always have to have their phones whatever type with them the whole time, no different than us boys always had to have their football or basketball, while the girls had their own thing, and feel lost without them, so your daughter 'will feel naked' as the saying goes, without her phone.
It's always lovely to feel wanted by our kids, because that's their first solid base to rely on mum and/or dad, as this happens even when they growing older, like my two sons who in their 30's, but in turn as they grow older the tables turn, where we want to feel wanted by them.
Can I suggest that there is a time in their life where they want some reassurance from us, but then it can change where they only drip feed us with information simply because they are worried about our reaction or are uncertain of our response which we may condemn or criticise, but loving parents just like yourself don't do this, because we know how fragile they are, so we congratulate them on their positives or offer hope on the negatives.
I can understand how worried you are, and you certainly have every right to feel this way, but as I have said before your daughter's is in good hands, but it can be such a worry.
I really hope that you keep posting back to us, because you need support just as well. L Geoff. x
