Help needed

[Unsure77]

Hi

i recently walked out on my bi polar fiancé as it got abusive and nasty. I wish I had read Tony's post about the cuppa before doing so, I'm not a confrontational person at all, the is sure I cheated on her which I didn't as she contacted the person and was told the same thing, but still didn't believe either us. She told me she loved me and things would change every time I went back but never did. The last time I went back she hit me again so I walked. It's been nearly three weeks now I haven't heard from her. Her family hate me as they all think I cheated on her, she has told them I am a compulsive liar. I love and miss her so much.

have I made the right decision by leaving, not that I think I will ever see or hear from her again. She is all I have thought about since I left.

[Unsure77]

I've just done it dng

it has come up with adventurer ISfp-a/ISfp-t

[Guest9337]

Overall do you feel comfortable with that description of adventurer?

Which parts work best for you?

Do any of the weaknesses align with what you perceive of yourself?

[Unsure77]

Most part seem accurate, I do worry about what people think, I do worry if I upset somebody. I think I'm more turbulent (t).

i don't like confrontation so I do along with most things to keep the flow going

[Guest9337]

Cool, lets explore the ideas.

Mostly accurate. Which particular words are perfectly accurate or closest to perfectly accurate?

"I do worry about what people think." > you consider other people, that's good news. Consider oneself too.

"I do worry if I upset somebody." > If you take someone body elses upset attitude into yourself, that can be hard work. Notice predicting worrying things, react by planing/goal for more comfortable outcomes instead.

Maybe, ... Keep the flow going through cooperation, when confrontation happens use your consideration for all sides of the situation, especially yourself.

[Unsure77]

Morning dng

I thought I would take the test again this morning being a new day and this time I certain up as an entertainer esfp a and t

reading both adventurer and entertainer I have very strong traits in both

[Guest9337]

Yawn, scratch. I'm still waking up - sleep apnea aint conducive to intelligent posting. Coffee in hand I ask - what you doing today to meet your values and goals U77?

Adventuring and entertaining in which ways?

dng.

[Unsure77]

Well I got the motivation to go out and work, had a nice chat with the customer, spoke to a very good mate that is helping me with all this aswell. The good thing about chatting to him is that he has met her and spoken to her and known what I have been through emotionally since I first met her, but I definatley think he has had enough of hearing about her and me saying I still love her.

Why cant I stop looking at the sky and talk to her tell her how I feel. The stockholme syndrome is seeming very real.

Or is it just that I can't handle the fact I couldn't fix it.

[Guest9337]

I advise you that She is outside your control, acknowledge that and work on what you can control.

I cannot stop Australia spending billions of dollars on military expenditure, so I must just let it go.

You have used your consideration of others to see that your very good mate has had enough of hearing you talking about Her. Go deeper and for your good mate, drop the subject of Her when around him, concentrating instead on a good friendship with him. What's he like doing/talking about?

dng.

[Unsure77]

He loves motorbikes, so have been talking about that, I have a goal to redo my licence and go riding with him

[Guest9337]

Sound great mate. I got my motobike license so I could work as a postie deliverer long time ago. Full class, but never ridden bigger than a 250cc honda.

There is something very liberating about riding bicycles and motorbikes. I love to lean into the curves.