Help me help my friend

HelpingAFriend
Community Member

My friend has struggled from chronic depression since a teenager, he is now 32years old. He is addicted to narcotics and alcohol and uses them to dull the depression but it only makes him feel worse. He works for himself and lives alone, he pushes away his family and his friends don't really understand how to support him, and don't contact him to help.

He is lonely and isolated but he won't live with anyone. He sees a psychiatrist who only puts him on medication and it doesn't work very well. I don't know how I can help him because he won't help himself. He is spending more and more time alone and sleeping lots and not working enough. I fear he will only get worse and the drugs and alcohol will always keep him sick.

I don't know what I can do to help. I don't know his friends so can't reach out to them, I know he wants them to support him and give him a reason to get up each day. He believes if he goes to rehab it will cost heaps and he will only end up back where he is. I am a single mum and can only be with him so much, and he wants to be alone anyway... but I know he just needs help to get his life together again.

What can I do? Please can someone tell me

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white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi HelpingAfriend, welcome to beyond blue forums

There is little you can do unless he is willing to find the drive to help himself.

He must find interest in his loss of drive. I can only suggest 1/ that he attends a doctor for treatment and 2/ ask him to read some threads here that are relevant

Use search to find these-

Motivation - search and rescue it

Meltdown- back to basics

Is there room for stubborness?

There is a huge amount of information in threads here in these pages. Your challenge is to get him motivated to read a couple of threads a day to make him aware how debilitating his health issues can be

Good luck  Tony WK.