Don't know what to do .

[jack86]

I am in a hard spot at the moment and I really don't know what I should do or how I should go about it.

My partner was recently in a clinic for a couple of weeks to get help with depression and anxiety. While he was in there his condition worsened to the point of suicidel.

He checked him self out twice, the second time coming home then leave the next day for a few weeks break.

what I didn't know that while he was in the clinic he made some friends which I encourage him generally to make friends and talk about his health.

But the ones he has made in there have encouraged reckless behaviour, like checking himself out early and other drastic things. While they were all in there the conspired against the staff via texting/IM .

The problem I have now is the people who he met are still pushing him to do things (quite his job, leave his family drink while on medication and other things )that he doesn't think are bad or irrational. It is also going the other way with him trying to counsel them and pushing them to make complaints towards the hospital and leave.

The clinic allows use of phones and such for patients but the situation that is happening is not safe for either my partner or the others involved.

I have no idea really what to do or how to approach this situation

[Zeal]

Hi Jack,

Welcome to the forum!

The negative influence these 'friends' have on your partner is concerning, so I'm glad you are aware of this and are seeking help on how to proceed. Approaching the head nurse or manager of the clinic is a good start. Before launching into the full explanation, mention that your concern is regarding communication between your partner and other patients. So long as you approach the member of staff respectfully (or ring and ask if/when they have time to talk), I think you will be fine. The nurse may have advice on how to broach this subject with your partner. Chances are something similar has happened with clinic patients in the past. Of course, no details of this will be given due to confidentiality, but the staff member/nurse may have advice based on past experience.

It would be great to hear back from you.

Best wishes,

Zeal

[jack86]

Bit of a delayed reply due to it being a roller coaster of emotions at the moment.

I contacted the hospital and they were very helpful and lovely and also explained that one of the people involve does this kind of thing on a regular basis and that they were expecting my call. As soon as this person is done/used/pushed some one as far as they can they just move on to the next.

What I had found out was far worse then what I was expecting. This one person had encouraged my partner to leave treatment and that they should start a life together . It also got to the point where I was sent messages telling me that my partner was better off with out me and didn't need or want me.

They started a physical relationship while there and other patients encourage it.

I tried to talk to my partner about this and was just met with anger and abuse ,told to leave it and that I don't understand.

I am aware that as a person with bi polar and such my partner has episodes of highs and lows and does things that he may not be able to control but as a couple this is gut wrenching.

This is by far the worst thing that my partner has done and I am finding it very difficult. I tried to ask if I needed an STI test and was told no so I asked if the slept together and then I was accused of lying to him and keeping secrets.

I am still very lost on this and it is extremely hard to go through this and watch this with some one you love so much.