Does my husband have psychosis?

[deek21]

Hi my husband has has depression anxiety for over ten years!

He's been on all sorts of meds but came off them as he didn't feel he ever improved.

Last year in June in his last position at work he believed staff were out to get him. Tracking his phone, computer even following him. He ended up leaving as I was also worried about his safety and believe what he said.

Now this year last few weeks he's been saying the same thing, being tracked recorded at work, mobile being hacked tracked, being followed after work on weekends. . He's accusing people at random, he even accused me of setting this up. . Trying to break him. Saying that I don't believe him which I don't it's being said constantly, these people are families , random people we don't know. He went to the extreme changed his phone number, his actual phone, email, bank details.We cacan't talk about our day he shuts me down to say that they are listening. They being work as they are trying to get rid of him.

​to add to the mix we have a toddler I'm scared about our safety, he's angry all the time. Verbally abusive to me.

Doesn't want help believes everything he's saying. . I need help i can't do this anymore either!

[White_Rose]

Hello Deek

I want to say it's good to hear from you again and I am pleased you have come back here for help.

I can understand your fears for yourself and your daughter. This is getting to be a serious situation. There are two things I know of you can do. Go and talk with your GP. I think you said in your previous posts that your husband saw doctor quite regularly. Is this your doctor also? Tell the doctor what is happening. Don't gloss over anything or say it's your fault. No excuses. Your GP may be able to send a mental health team out to assess him. I know this is not a pleasant thought and in your shoes I would not be happy about it. Please think of the safety and well-being of your daughter and you.

The second thing is to contact the Women's Legal Service in your state. They will arrange for a one or two free consultations with a lawyer, unless you are already talking to a lawyer. You need to know the legal processes involved in your husband possibly going to hospital for a thorough assessment. This will not be optional for him. You need to ensure you are physically and financially safe. This is too important to wait and see.

Since you first wrote on this forum in Oct 2015 your husband's health has been going downhill. You have been carrying the burden of caring for him, your daughter, the house and bills as well as working. All this takes its toll on anybody. When you talk to your GP ask about counselling for you. This is not because you have a mental illness but because you need to look at your situation as objectively as possible. It's very difficult to do this when you are so involved and emotional.

I am concerned about you and I wish I could tell you how to manage so that everything turned out OK. It may well do so. If your husband gets the help he needs, probably with medication and ongoing visits to a psychiatrist, it may help him turn the corner and get well again. I know of a situation which was much worse than yours where the husband was in hospital for about four months. He did become well and is now living happily with his wife. It can get better. So don't write him off altogether.

But be realistic. He must want to regain his health. I have no idea of his illness so I cannot tell you what will happen.

I feel I have given you a list of instructions and no emotional support. Please write in here for help as often as you need. Talk to the BB helpline on 1300 22 4636. This available 24/7. Take care of yourself and daughter.

Mary

[pipsy]

Hi deek21. All I can say is to listen to Mary's advise here. Everything she says is spot on. Your hubby is in desperate need of help, so are you and your daughter. You have quite an emotional heavy load on your shoulders, you need to know where to get the help you need. See if you could get the Dr to arrange for a home visit, this way, he would see your hubby in his own environment. The Dr would then arrange an assessment. The Dr could also reassure your hubby he needs help. Your hubby could be scared of going to the Dr for fear of being taken away. You've done all you can, let a professional help you. There is nothing to fear, asking for help, you don't need to feel guilty for admitting you're scared for your hubby's safety. You have your own health, plus a young child.

Lynda.

[geoff]

dear Deeks, thank you for coming back to us, because at the moment this situation dramatically needs attention, as you say it's getting worse, and it won't improve until something is done.
I can not agree any more from what Mary and Lynda have said as they are spot on with their advice, but the main concern is for you to try and get him to seek help.
What you have said is a diagnosis only your doctor can give, there are times when we may suggest when we believe does have depression, but that's just our word and it's not a qualified decision that could be guaranteed.
His illusions are what he is worried about and what he feels is going on, and there maybe some which are slightly happening which has exasperated it to the full extent as what you have said that he does need help.
People can quite often feel as though counsellors/psychologists are not helping them, but to them they feel as though progress has been made, but that's where they have to tell their patient and try and convince them that they have made some gain, but for a people suffering they feel that they aren't getting anywhere.
Firstly I hope that you can take the advice from what Mary and Lynda have said, because now his verbal abuse could turn into what you certainly don't want, as it's not only you but also your daughter who need to be in an safe environment. Geoff. x

[Winterfell]

Please seek urgent assistance for your family and husband. If you can ring your local mental health crisis team they might have some good advice for you. You may be able to get him to a doctor by focussing in on any areas he is having trouble with, is he sleeping poorly? is he tense? maybe he may agree to see a doctor with you for anxiety meds or sleeping meds and that can be your in with regards to mental health assessment.

This must be very distressing for him to be living with these ideas and kindness and compassion is important but so is your safety. When people's ideas become overwhelming they are vulnerable and more likely to act on them, potentially causing a situation of risk for themselves and others.

How are things today? Have you managed to get some assistance at all?