Borderline Personality Disorder

[nkg]

Hello, My partner, Ex partner I believe has BPD, he does not understand to stay away.  It has been going on for so long, I am at my witts end.  I have tried so hard not to involve police, but he wont understand and stay from me. My mental health has suffering and is still suffering.

I have tried for 2 or so years to make him understand and move forward with his life and mine. He is unwell and getting worse,  he has elderly parents and a 9 yr old share care of his son.  That is another reason I have up until this point involved the police. I care for him but can no longer help him,  I have given him many warning to let me move on,  but he keeps on breaking in and invading my space leaving letters, cards and flowers. There is so much more to this story.... put please can any one help me and tell me what I should do. 

I have three older children also, 

please help.

Kind regards NKG

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[Neil_1]

Hi nkg

Welcome to Beyond Blue and thank you for sharing your post.

Your story is very troubling as you are fully aware.

I’m guessing that moving for you is not an option – in a perfect world, if you could leave unannounced and end up somewhere else, that would be a great solution;  but then again, that would mean you up and leaving from all that your currently have and know.  You may have a job and a good friend base/family base where you are.

My other thought on this is what you have suggested and that is to go to the police and get their involvement.  The sound of him breaking into your home would warrant their involvement – and as you’ve suggested, it’s not like the first time that you have mentioned this to him.  I guess the thing about involving the police is how he may take that?  Has he reacted in an angry fashion before if you mention about involving the police?

And I’m also assuming that there’s no way that he would have sought out any professional help for himself.

I hope I’ve suggested something helpful here – I would really like to hear back from you and hope that there might be others who come to your support here as well.

Kind regards

Neil

[aingeal]

Hi NKG,

I really feel for your situation. I understand from personal experience how hard it is for someone with an unmanaged mental illness can become. It can be obsessive and they may not be fully aware of the behaviour as unwanted.

I hope the mods can provide you the support you need, but I did wish to say that your safety is paramount and if you feel that you are in danger, do not hesitate to contact the police.

Hoping you are OK.

livelife xx

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