I'm 30 and have a (S.O.) significant other I've known since I was a child. We've been together roughly 5 years now, and the relationship is...turning stale 😞 We've had a rough go from the beginning where my SO's family is concerned and I am wondering if there was too much turmoil in the beginning that seems to have damaged a "healthy lift off" as far as starting our lives goes? My SOs mother was fine with me as a friend/neighbor/acquaitance, but when we moved in together, she stopped acknowledging my presense altogether. Wouldn't say my name, stopped waving at my Grandparents (who are her neighbors directly across the street), and started referring to me as a leach, dumb donuts, "her", refuses even to this day to acknowledge me without my SOs presence. If my SO is around, she's "normal", when my SO is nowhere to be seen she sticks her nose in the air completely. This type of narcissim has reached new levels. I've caught her referring to my family's business as crass and owned my a floozy (she's never met my folks before), I've had strangers come up to me and ask why "that woman doesn't like me?". I've tried emailing her, instant messaging her, sending a card to her to try and repair our "relationship". All have gone unanswered. This past year, she texted me Happy Birthday and that would be the ONLY time in 5 years she's reached out to me. She also has another child that's about 2 months older than me who follows the mother's footsteps to a T and treats me the same. I guess I don't understand if she dislikes me so greatly, why can't she just be cordial instead of taking the time out of her day to be obvious in her dislike? I've caught her watching me in my neighborhood twice. The first time she lied about it, and had her second child covered for her, and the second time I took photos of her bad behavior. I've never shared them, but they give me some solace - a reminder that I am not crazy!! I've never received an apology from her or the other child. They've supposedly apologized to my SO, but that doesn't help ME!! WHY does this poor behavior go unnoticed by other's, ie - their extended family, my SO, etc etc? I've sought psychological help because I am very depressed at this point. My SO is a heavy drinker and I am told that his Mother blames me for this. However, the Mother visits the bar every single Friday night and has for years and years. She would frequent the bars with her two children (before I came along) and party until closing. I have been told this by my SO. I thought I wanted children with my SO, but I am so afraid to move forth in my life that I feel stuck. Afraid to move forward, afraid to move on and it's taking its toll on me physically. I have never been treated this way before by a "Mother In Law" as someone's girlfriend. I never bite back, I never act a fool, and believe me I have acted out rashly in the past, but for whatever reason I feel like maybe this woman has some mental health issues that need tending to. She's 53 years old and acts like a teenager. Her husbands side of the family are not exactly fans of this woman and I've been told that maybe I'm asking for something that I really don't want.......Please help me with your thoughts on this as they are much appreciated.
~Ladyblue
