Dear MG
The basic answer to your question is, get another GP. Have you explored the list of health professionals under Get Support and Resources under the tabs at the top of the page? There is a list of GPs who are experienced in mental health issues. You can search by postcode.
Alternatively you can ask your GP for a referral to a psychologist for another opinion, or a psychiatrist who can give your husband a medical certificate. There are pros and cons for going back to work while still being depressed. However, a blanket statement that it makes it harder to go back if he has more leave is very vague. She needs to look at his whole needs.
If your husband believes the GP is suggesting he is rorting the system then it is clear she is not listening to him and her communication skills are poor. I worked part time while I was depressed and there were still many days I could not face going to work. Fortunately the psychiatrist was willing to give me a medical certificate every time I had sick leave.
If your husband goes back to work too early and forces himself to stay there I think his depression may get worse. At the very least he will not be working to his full capacity, a condition which is known as presenteeism. That is, someone at work but who does little because of a medical condition.
Being over protective may be true, but it is quite natural. However, you know your husband and his abilities so I would think you are quite capable of helping him rather than over protecting him.
Good luck with your sister. I read your other post. Regardless of your concerns and previous history you do need to say your goodbyes. Regret is a soul destroying emotion. Loving her as much as possible while you are there is one thing. Being used is another. I hope you manage to keep the two things separate.
Regards
Mary
