Hi Supporter 4,
Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums, you pose great questions and I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I certainly do relate to life being hold and I would always recommend visiting a counsellor to get some advice and support.
So does your husband have a mental health plan/strategy? With a defined strategy you will know where you stand and how he is progressing. Without this it is a difficult situation, without specific goals it is easier for him to avoid the parts of life that makes him anxious. As you know, depression and anxiety are serious illnesses, it takes time to recover and it will impact your relationship. And I should say, he is lucky to have you, you are caring and loving and you are seeking improvement which is great, well done, keep going. So as much as I got a giggle out of the golden ticket analogy, maybe it is time to drop this thinking, maybe it doesn't serve you to think this way and maybe your partner IS acting out of his illness.
It helps me to check my emotion some times, drop it out for a while and look at issues from a new angle. Maybe the things that you need to address for your future could be worked on another way, change the location, over coffee? Perhaps you can go solo for now with the long term goals and work it back to what needs to happen today and then include your partner in the daily goals/activities.
Let's foster hope that your partner is recovering and that this will all improve soon. Talk any time.
Jack
