Hi there,
Hubby has been going through a rough trot at work, usual thing, staff cut so he has to carry his load and also the load of the staff member whose contract was not renewed. I knew he felt pressured and it didn't helped that I was away visiting my daughter in London. We had skyped each other and he told me that he wanted to bring his retirement date forward, which we did just before I left. Whilst I was away, he told me how he felt and also, that he was not coping but he did promised me not to do anything rash.
I guess, I didn't suspected how anxious and unhappy he was. So, it came as a bit of a shock to see how much his mental health has deteriorated whilst I was away. Hubby wanted to resign almost immediately but I didn't think he should do so whilst he is feeling so demoralised and depressed. I thought it is better that he seeks treatment for his anxiety and depression before resigning. With the help of Beyondblue, I have located a GP trained in identifying mental health but the appointment is not until Thursday. I am kind of hoping with treatment, he would then be able to be in a better frame of mind to decide whether he should accept early retirement.
I also did make a promise to him that I will support him unconditionally, if it becomes too tough for him. My question now is, am I doing the right thing by insisting on seeking treatment first before resigning or should I encourage him to resign immediately? The thing is, I am worried that he will discontinued treatment if he resigned and at his age trying to find another job will be tough. I don't think he could cope with more rejections. I will be interested in hearing your thought / opinion.
