Hi Sasquatchion
Absolutely nothing wrong with being angry under certain circumstances. Sometimes I think more damage can be done with suppression. Typically we fight for something, something that means a lot to us, something we may passionately believe in, therefor suppression can be about sacrificing a part of who we naturally are. We can suppress and suppress and suppress until we just don't recognise our self anymore. There's typically only 2 key reasons as to why I fight with my husband of 20 years, 1) when I fighting to be heard after I've thoughtfully tried every other way to be heard and 2) when I'm fighting for something I fully believe my kids need or are entitled to. I'm not just their mum, I'm also their advocate at times. I'll always fight for my kids because they're worth fighting for. They would also fight for me.
There's so much power in feelings. If it's of any help when it comes to redefining feelings, I tend to see them as certain types of energy in motion (aka e-motion). Nothing weak or broken about reporting what the heck that energy's doing or how it's feeling at any given time. Looking at feelings this way can help with self expression and a 'matter of fact' approach. I used to suppress a lot of my feelings, as my husband would just tell me to 'calm down' or I was 'being dramatic' or 'making a big deal about nothing'. These days it's different. It's more a matter of fact, 'Dude, what you just said was thoughtless and heartbreaking'. While he'd deny this, my response 'Just telling you the facts. If you had've put more thought into what you just said, I wouldn't have felt that thud in my chest and a massive down shift. Just reporting what I feel '. Feelings are things you feel through your body. They're incredibly telling.
