Lonely and so sad

[Darley]

I’m so lonely 

I have a husband and children but feel so lonely

it really is too hard and no one would miss me I’m sure

[smallwolf]

hello and welcome.

I don't know much from your post yet have been familiar with loneliness - when I was working from home and lost contact with the outside world. And i had/have a wife and children. And our mind easily plays tricks on us, telling us we won't be missed. I hope you might stay around for a little, and tell me some of your story...

[Darley]

Thanks for response it is encouraging

Im 70 and basically lonely and feeling redundant 

im married but my husband runs a gardening business as a hobby and im not encouraged to join him

i try to enjoy outing with other people such a walking etc but would prefer sharing my day with my husband.

i feel I’m just there to enable his life by keeping house and cooking which I do not thrive at after a life of career and family

I’m feeling very depressed and yet petty

[smallwolf]

if you don't mind me asking... does your husband know how you feel? Or in what ways are you "not encouraged to join him"? Sounds a little sad.

Or are there other things you might be able to do that you enjoy? For example, I was talking with some people from a child care center and they were looking for people to read to the children. This might not be for you, but rather give you some ideas?

[Darley]

Thank you

helping at a school sounds like an idea

Yes my husband does know how I feel

it is all be but sad as you say

im sure I’ll be fine thank you for your kind thoughts

[smallwolf]

I’m really glad to hear helping at a school might be something you'd consider. Sometimes even small connections like that can make a big difference, both for others and for ourselves. There might be other things you used to do (and like) also ...?

Most important, please do be kind to yourself, and take things one step at a time. If ever you want to talk or explore more ideas, I’m listening...

[Darley]

Thank you for your suuport

it has helped

yiu are very kind

[smallwolf]

And you are too kind for saying that. 

if you don't mind my asking... what sort of things do you like doing?

[Darley]

I like walking, tv , books and travel.

the trouble is when I’m depressed I have little motivation 

which when written seems very petty 

[smallwolf]

I get what you are saying ... ti happens to me also re little motivation. Using walking as a example, I would find that if I went outside (for a walk) that when I started I would think something along the lines of "what is the point" but then after about 10 minutes or so, my attitude would change. I would walk to a gardens that was about 25 minutes (walking pace) from where I lived and watch the world go by. This may or may not work for you? Perhaps a better answer might be is that we each have to work out the circuit breaker for those moments and/or ride it out. And if it is the latter, remember you are awesome!