What skills would you draw on if...?

[Nicoc]

Morning all

I'm barely keeping my head above water today, so I've started a new thread to see if others can share their ideas and help me stay afloat.

My life has taken some very dramatic twists and turns in the past few months. First of all, I lost my mum to cancer at the end of May. She was diagnosed and died 1 week and 6 days later. Then my youngest child (youngest of nine) decided to live with her father...so I lost her too. Then my son went too. So technically I'm grieving the loss of three people I love.

Having been a full time mother since 17 means that I no longer have the day-to-day care of children. So technically my long time career has gone belly-up. I feel ...displaced...like a refugee, not feeling at home with this experience called life.

The funny thing is, that my mum has left me a lot of money....I will be a wealthy woman and isn't financial freedom what we all dream about? Trouble is...it means nothing in the face of loss-of-self.

If any of you can share insight...it would be more valuable than gold.

Kind regards

Nic

[Kazzl]

You're among friends here hun.

I hope today is a better one for you.

Kaz

[MarkJT]

Nicoc, first thing to remember is that you are NOT alone in your journey. There are so many that are going through somewhat similar situations. Your strength to reach out is wonderful and even in your hard times you still have the mindset to reach out. Well done.

I remember when i was in my darkest days and could see nothing but black in my future, I promised myself that when i recover, i will help other Emergency Services employees overcome their demons. This is what i do now and also help anyone i can. Like you and pretty much everyone on this forum, we have some really valuable insight into mental health. You literally cannot buy what we have and you have so much (unfortunately) experience on when life goes pear shaped.

Obviously your recovery is number one. You deserve to be healthy and happy but once this day arrives, if you wanted to you, you could help steer those that are suffering into the right direction and help others. It is so rewarding and energising when this happens. This would give you something highly meaningful to do and will stop you sitting around with a lazy brain and as well all know lazy brains and not good!

Thank you again for reaching out - so much courage to do that. Much respect.

[Kazzl]

Hi Nic - just leaving a little message to say I'm thinking of you, and I look forward to talking with you when you're up to it. Very best wishes to you hun

Kaz

[Just Sara]

Oh Nic..how brave you are;

You not only have people to talk to, you have people to talk 'with'. We hear you and validate your pain and courage. You WILL overcome! You ARE doing it. Resources such as mental health facilities are there for this very reason, to support you to learn to support yourself. I wish I had have been placed in care when my 'time' happened, but I wasn't that fortunate.

Keep up the good fight...kind thoughts..Dizzy xo