Struggling with Homelessness, Financial Hardship & Domestic Violence

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Hi everyone,

I never thought I’d be in this position, but life has taken some tough turns, and I’m feeling overwhelmed. I’m currently experiencing homelessness, financial struggles, and the impacts of domestic violence. I’ve been trying to hold everything together, but it’s getting harder by the day.

Financially, things have been difficult for a while. I’ve been working, but between unexpected expenses, debts, and trying to keep up with life, I feel like I’m always behind. I’ve been dealing with a company that has been unfairly charging me after a contract ended, and I’ve had to escalate the issue legally. On top of that, I’m facing ongoing issues with my car, making it harder to get around for work and daily needs.

The situation at home has also become unbearable. I’ve had to distance myself from certain family members due to ongoing disrespect, emotional and verbal abuse, and constant boundary violations. I’ve tried to set clear limits, but they keep being ignored, making it impossible to feel safe or at peace. I’ve reached a point where I cannot keep putting myself in toxic situations, but walking away feels like losing everything I’ve known.

Through all of this, I’ve been trying to stay strong. But I’m stuck, unsure of what will happen next. The uncertainty is exhausting, and some days I feel like I’m running out of options.

I know I’m not the only one struggling, and that’s why I’m posting here. I’m hoping to connect with others who understand what it’s like to feel stuck between survival and trying to build a better future. If anyone has advice, resources, or just words of support, really appreciate it.

Thanks for reading.

[white knight]

hi, welcome

I'm a 69yo male, financially comfortable (now). Due to me mental health issues my life early on was a financial nightmare, impulsivity led me to "signing the dotted line" with dozens of cars within a few years. I had to take stock around 30yo well before I realised the problem was mental health based (bipolar, mania, autism).

So at 40yo I separated from my 1st wife and began my new single life in a caravan park with my $900 4 metres long caravan. Severely depressed I believed there was no future in sight. This was the moment I would rebound. As I paid minimal rent I was able to save and just had enough for a deposit. My marriage settlement was my garage so relocated it onto the land and had it all revalued. I had actually doubled my value in a few months enough to have a deposit for a kit home which I built around the clock while working shift work.

My point is, in some cases where there is a will there is a way.

I dont know if you are male or female, but my suggestion is better for males. To move on from that car and purchase a basic parcel van preferably one with cupboards and sink/fridge. There are many free camps in Australia even within commuter range of the city. Buy wikicamps for $10 and you have online every free camp in Australia with descriptions of those camps. No rent!!. Book into a caravan park once a fortnight to do your laundry, charge your battery etc.

The above will allow you to live away from family members and that is an equally challenging situation. In fact it will mess with your mind. In the meantime put a lock on your bedroom door. 

Being decisive and in some ways radical could give you more prospects than "more of the same". Many years ago a hitchhiker told me he was embarking on a radical step after he found his wife cheating on him. He rang me 6 months later- he was a cook at a sheep station in the outback and even found love. Radical doesnt have to be irresponsible but clever. I see young people paying huge rent and cannot ever save for land or a house. If you are mobile you could pay a friend to allow you to stay in their backyard once a week, have company for that evening and camp other nights.

Thoughts?

TonyWK