i had a terrible childhood that i thankfully survived,and i learnt years ago to keep going and compartmentalise these things here and those things there,and unfortunately i had to look after myself for a few years till i got out of that situation.i hope things are better for anyone in trouble,i hope they have access to services and agencies,and it would be great if anyone in trouble or having a rotten time reach's out on a forum like this.
I always appreciate your thoughts and contributions 🙂
Your lessons resonate with me and as for the repetition part, I don't think that's necessarily because you're a slow learner but it's just lessons can just take time to sink in.
Some of my lessons take time too and I still make many mistakes even after learning a lesson 😉
When I fail, I have an opportunity to learn from it. There's nothing to be learned from feeling like I'm the failure.
When a toddler learns to walk, how many times do they fall, pick themselves up, and keep going? We would NEVER say they're failure's. We praise them and squeal with joy every time they get up, and encourage them to the hilt when they cry.
I agree. I feel that adults need a cheer squad to not just children. We also fall and stumble but where is our cheer squad saying you can do it, have another go.
I don't like the word fail or failure. We may not succeed every time but we have tried and that's worth a cheer.
On these forums there is a cheer squad but I wish there was one in real life helping adults as well.
Unfortunately Quirky, once little people can walk and talk, they're told to shut up and go away. So much for cheer squad.
That's why we struggle to have that cheering inside ourselves. Criticising us became the norm after we stopped being cute, instead of celebrating our success. Lasting thoughts of never being good enough. However...
I love your comment on how unconditional encouragement- or call it what you will- seems to fade with age. I agree with you and Quirky that adults also need a cheer squad.
