That’s nature right? It has been so for every animal on the planet since life began. Why would humans be different? We, those with mental/emotional struggles are seen as the weak in the eyes of the domineering. Modern society has a long way to go for fairness for all.
So, if you feel vulnerable, an easy target in social situations, what can you do? Do you need to “toughen up princess” as was told to me so many times? What survival techniques can you implement to survive?
In my experience toughening up isn’t natural unless you include it in your natural maturing development. It’s like patience…where do you buy that?
So, allowing comments to become “water off a ducks back” isn’t natural for us. Swallowing hurt is really tough because it goes against our feelings, our personality.
Google Topic: sensitive beyond reasonable- beyondblue Topic: depression and sensitivity a connection?- beyondblue
This is the sole reason I’ve retreated from society. No more committees (car clubs, volleyball, council sub committee’s etc). The less people you are in contact with the less chance of abuse right? It’s logical. But is it ideal to "live" in my shed??
For some of us retreating isn’t so easy. Some are talkers, we need vocal communication, we want to be liked, admired and successful. So the challenge is to get a balance.
Google- Topic: the labyrinth of friendships- beyondblue Topic: the balance of your life- beyondblue
Your happy place is for you and you only to find. To dodge the rogues, to identify those people that could trigger much hurt, to remain cordial and calm with the best level of judgement. To no longer feel obligated when some throw expectations upon you…to learn to tactfully say “no thankyou but good luck with your committee’s future.” Don't allow others to use you like a puppet
Topic: controlling your life- how important is it?- beyondblue
Find your “happy place”. Acknowledge to yourself you are not well. Find the insulation you need as a defence from those that think survival means to conquer. You are not in this world to live up to others expectations.
Topic: wit, the only answer to torment- beyondblue
You will not become stronger, its not in your nature even to mimic those that dominate. You’ll likely over react and been seen as the nasty one
Be stronger by building your defence. Let those with fork tongue throw stones at your brick walls as you nurture yourself away from their chants. And be happy
Tony WK
