Mindfulness: What Is It? (Even if you dont know please post so we can help grow the forums accordingly)

[blondguy]

Hi Everybody

This is only the basic dictionary definition...

"Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you're mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment without judgement"

• Please be as blunt you wish....If you dont have an idea about mindfulness it would be great if you could let us know
• If mindfulness hasnt worked/or is too broad a concept for you it would great if you can let us know your thoughts too
• If mindfulness has helped you, please help others to help themselves by posting how you have embraced this mindset

It goes without saying that the forums are a judgement free zone and I really hope that everyone can jump in and have their say

Your input is highly valued no matter how you respond to this topic. There are no experts here...New Posters are Most Welcome!!

My Kindest Thoughts

Paul

[Guest_1643]

Hey Jstar -
i agree with u

Let out the pain and be real... Pretending to be "fine" when I was def not "fine" was worse for me....

doesn't make the pain go away and then you have the extra sickening feeling of lying, being fake, pretending

I guess it sounds nice to focus on our wellness rather than illness

but not at the expense of honouring our authentic feelings.

It's okay to cry and to not be okay.

[blondguy]

Hi Sleepy21

just saying thankyou for the wonderful care you show to everyone on the forums including Jstar above!

Sleepy21 mentioned 'It's okay to cry and to not be okay' Thankyou too for your help and balance on Emmens thread on the weekend.

I hope you have good week Sleepy

my kindest always

Paul

[Guest_1643]

thank you Paul

hope u have a fantastic week

[blondguy]

Hugs and thankyou heaps Sleepy...I will x

[Jstar49]

Hey Sleepy,

Exactly! Let out the pain and be real- I think that would make a great tshirt!

I love the search for the authentic self- it feels like it gives meaning to the madness.

I'm glad that others have noticed your kind thoughtful comments, it's really stellar. And i can totally relate to how pretending to be fine makes us feel worse, more alone. It can be difficult to find ppl who can just be there with you when youre feeling big feelings tho.

Perhaps this is the next step of mindfulness...

J*

[quirkywords]

A new year a new month anew day, all full of promise.

I wonder if anyone has plans or intentions to try a different approach to mindfulness or to keep doing what is working for them

i am going to try to have a more open minded and accept what i do to focus and be calm while not mindfulness according to some , helps me.

[blondguy]

Hi everyone and lets hope the 2021 brings us some peace!

Thankyou to everyone that has participated and provided their helpful input Hey Quirky...thankyou for your all the super support you have provided here and all across the forums

Tim has an excellent grasp of mindfulness that has helped so many readers and posters..Thankyou Tim

I will stick with using 'gentle distraction' and my proactive GP for a 'fine tune' in the new year:-)

my kind thoughts.....Paul

[Jstar49]

Hi all,

I have a question for some discussion, if anyone's up for it.

I've been pondering this since visiting a friend who is right into attracting what she wants in her life. She is putting out for a relationship, and being very specific about some qualities that she'd like in the relationship.

So, my question is, how du all reckon this works with mindfulness? Du think it can work together, with being in the moment and accepting things with peace and equanimity?

Cheers,

J*

[smallwolf]

Thanks for your kind words Paul. Though I would call myself a beginner in respect to mindfulness. I know enough to be dangerous - in that we are always learning what works or does not work for myself. And perhaps reply.

Perhaps the take out for 2021 might be this ...

there are plenty of ways a person can practice mindfulness and we each have our own ways of knowing and doing what works for us. It is OK if we "don't do it properly or get distracted". The important thing is to be kind to yourself and remind yourself that you did the best you could.

[quirkywords]

Jstar

Has your friend read the Secret.
I am not sure what it is to do with mindfulness.

I would be interested in what others think too.