Meditation, Manifesting, Gratitude & The Law of Attraction

[CMF]

Hi everyone,

Not sure where to start so hope I can express myself clearly and maybe with others' input we can expand on this. I'm interested in people's thoughts/ experience with meditation, manifesting, gratitude & the law of attraction. I've recently started using the Smiling Mind app to meditate when going to sleep and sometimes when feeling a little anxious, like tonight. It is something i thought i could never do as my mind rarely stops, however, with persistence, I find I enjoy it. I guess i tend to have a negative mindset which I am determined to change.I always felt uneasy about thinking positive things as i thought i would jinx myself, and that whenever I made a positive comment or felt happy it would go wrong or something negative would happen. So i refrained from allowing myself to be too happy, I guess to 'protect' myself. Recently i have been feeling happier, stronger, expressing gratitude and taking note of when things have come to me when i needed them. Coincidence, or answers to what i put out to the Universe? I like to think the latter. A work colleague one day told me to manifest something i wanted, put it out to the universe , so I'm trying. Example, recently we needed to measure the floor space at reception so we could calculate how many people we could have in at one time. I needed a tape measure, which i did not have. At that moment our handyman walked into the office. Guess what he had? I am getting into the habit of practising positive thinking instead of thinking/expecting negatives. If something 'negative' does crop up, it can be dealt with, it's not the end of the world. I look for the positive in every negative situation. I am becoming more aware of being grateful for little things, things like getting a good car park at work, a warn cosy bed, a tidy house. I feel when i am expressing gratitude I am putting positive thoughts out into the universe and I notice more positives instead of focusing on negatives. Late last week we had internet issues at work and a colleague i found a little annoying. I've been feeling very drained, agitated, negative for a few days. This morning things were not running smoothly for me. A result of my negative mind perhaps? Little things became a big deal, my morning was crap. If i look back, it wasn't really an issue, i just did things in a different order which gave me more relax time this evening. The Law of Attraction, positive thoughts, positive experiences.

What are your thoughts?

cmf x

[therising]

Hi CMF

Sounds like you're in the process of raising your vibe. Hoping the reading gives you greater clarity, raising that vibe even further. Hope you come away from it absolutely buzzing. It's amazing how when you find your 'go to' person for clarity how they can make such a difference. I've found it's also amazing how many people can slam our resource for greater clarity. If you've ever heard something along the lines of 'Oh, you see one of those people. They're all a load of rubbish', you'll know what I mean. Funny thing is...the resource they slam is the resource that often makes the most positive difference to us. I figure, whatever resource speaks to the soul, whichever one helps us evolve beyond who and where we are, it's a good one to stick with no matter what anyone says.

Can't wait to hear how the reading went 🙂

[CMF]

Well the reading was accurate. I wrote down what I wanted to focus on. All I could write was stuck. First thing she said was that I was stuck lt came up everywhere. My partners sis keeps appearing ad dominant & controlling. She picked up that I'm at my wits end & if things don't change I'm ready to walk away. Said my partner is really aware now & will make an effort to improve things. She said he should come to my house more & we should cook & do things together at his so sis can see we are the couple as she is ignorant to the impact she is having by alwzys being around. There was more, funnily enough my partner sent me a pic of a beach house they like. Not sure if they're serious but he said it would be great for us to get away on weekends and be alone. He is right, but its6a Bandai solution. She'll still be always in my face at his house. That's the issue he's avoiding.

Cmf x

[digisur]

Hi CMF!
i have to admit, this is a really interesting discussion - a lot of great insights from the community. Tbh, I never believed in these things myself. Sure, I always thought that good thoughts bring something good in your life and negative thoughts are more of self-sabotage. So I've tried to stay positive as much as I can, but we all know that that's not always possible. My friend was into meditation for quite some time and I decided to try it for myself as well. What was interesting to learn - not every meditation practice is suitable for everyone so I had to find something for me. Got some advice in online forums and started using several apps for meditation such as Inscape and Yoursapp - was really impressed with the content I found, as well as with meditation practices, breathing exercises, and a nice selection of music/nature sounds that helped me to calm myself before going to sleep. I'm meditating and doing some practices for mindfulness for a while now and I can really feel the change not only in my mental wellbeing but also in how I'm managing difficult situations and how much my approach towards life changed. Working on your mind and creating something positive can really change a lot in your life.

[CMF]

Hi divisor,

Welcome to the discussion & thank you for your thoughts. It's definitely hard to be positive all the time but it does help. I'm really low at the moment. I'm stuck. I think it's my relationship. I've never been able to get into meditation. I can't relax enough lol

Cmf x

[therising]

Hi CMF

So glad the reading went well and offered validation, insight and guidance.

Can't help but wonder why his sister and the kids are living with him. Was this meant to be a transitional period for her and she's ended up staying longer than planned? Kind of like 'Stay 'til you get back on your feet' and she's enjoying the support and company so much that she feels no deep need to move on beyond this right now. Do you think he's happy having a live in caretaker, if she's taking care of his house and him? I imagine they get along pretty well. If this is the case, perhaps he's not in a hurry for her to move out. Kind of like having a flatmate who you get along really well with. Why would you want them to leave in that case?

Have been on both sides of the fence. We have a nice comfy bungalow in the back yard. Some years ago my husband's relative came to stay for a few months or so. While I got along famously with him, I ended up asking my husband at one point down the track 'When is he planning on leaving?'. My husband wasn't in a hurry for him to leave, which I could understand, but it doesn't take away from the fact there's a certain feel to when your place is not your own. It's a feeling of losing your freedom to some degree. Flipping perspective, I also had a relative come to stay. At the time he was around 20 and had just faced a life altering experience and was deeply deeply depressed. He was just as depressed when my husband asked some months later when this young guy was planning on leaving. I couldn't imagine this guy living alone, as for me this was a major trigger when I was depressed. It happened that my brother stepped in at this point and said 'He's coming to live with me'. This young guy went from living in a place where he was gently loved in a maternal kind of way to a place where there was a lot of tough love and solid direction. The tough love approach worked, as it led this young man out of depression. The best thing he could have done was leave to move to a place where there was still support.

If your partner's sis is there for support, is it the best kind of support or is the kind of support that's actually stopping her from progressing further?

Is it possible to carefully lead him to imagine, while enjoying adventures together and vibing at your place, what he'd like the future to look like for his sister? Could you trigger him to open his mind to possibilities and maybe even be excited for her, based on those possibilities?

[therising]

Hi digisur

A warm welcome to you 🙂

I think it's amazing how we can come to gradually relate to something, such as meditation. I think we have to have an open mind for this to happen. Closed minded people typically flat out refuse to relate to anything that doesn't suit them. Know a few of those people.

As my mind has opened up more over the years I've come to realise what I may not be able to relate to now could be something I relate to further down the track. I think a lot of it's about how we're led to relate to things. Before this thread, I could basically relate to manifesting. With CMF leading me to relate to it on a deeper level, I can now deeply relate to it. CMF is a great leader 🙂 Another example that comes to mind is a bit of a strange one. You could be feeling a lot of stress in the lead up to someone gifting you a set of wind chimes. The chimes sit in a box for days before something pops into your head like 'Go and hang the wind chimes up'. So you do. After a number of days, you come to realise those chimes lead you to feel a sense of peace you've been trying to find. Suddenly, you can relate to sound therapy. Music therapy is also a form of sound therapy that works for some. Before this, you may have thought 'That sound therapy stuff sounds like a load of rubbish'.

I'm so glad you can relate to the kind of meditation that makes a difference to you. I think life has a kind of 'treasure hunt' aspect to it. In searching for what is mind altering and life changing, the more we open our mind, the easier it becomes to find all the little treasures that make a difference to us. Of course, some days it can feel impossible, opening our mind to finding what makes a difference. I figure, if we're treasure hunters/explorers, all explorers have felt completely lost at some point and/or have faced the kinds of territory that appear impossible to get through or navigate. No matter how lost we feel, the treasures remain, waiting to be discovered. To maintain faith in that is a challenge in itself.

[CMF]

Hi therising,

The kids are his 18 & 20 year old. When he divorced she helped him financially by buying into his house so she owns half. She moved in to supposedly help with the kids, right after we started going out. It's been almost 3.5 years.

Yeah it is like having a housemate & she is too comfy to move back to her own place. She's 43,no partner now & no kids. He's got a fill in wife/mother. She's got the perfect family set up ,& they're like a husband ,& wife. Awful for me as I'm like a guest.

I know I need to focus, /manifest what I want...her to move out/on & my partner & I to have a normal relationship without her there all the time. She was going to move in with her bf soon but they broke up.

I don't know why this obstacle has been placed in my path in every way. She's 6ft 3, dominant & controlling personality. My partner is very placid and agreeable. My partner & I dated 30 years ago. We found each other again and he says it was like 'coming home'. Can't work out why she's been put there to interfere, and why her plans to move out failed so we've gone backward now.

Cmf x

[therising]

Hi CMF

That's so beautiful how you and your partner came back together again after so long. His words which define the reunion are so soulful.

I tried opening my mind to see what naturally came in and all I got (so far) is maybe part of it could be about manifesting for her, his sister. Kind of like the more opportunities you bring into her life, the less she'll be in the house. Imagine manifesting a 2 week holiday for her, a new job that leads her to have to move closer to that job and so on. Perhaps things are still a bit raw after her relationship break up, otherwise you could consider manifesting a new guy in her life or maybe some amazing guy is exactly what she needs to be able to move on in life. Perhaps you could manifest an opportunity for her to find a new friendship circle, which would lead her to go out more.

Who knows, could the universe be challenging you to see if you hold the ability to put all things aside and manifest for your arch enemy? Sounds like the ultimate test. Could the universe be saying in some way 'It's one thing to manifest for yourself, it's quite another to do it for someone else, especially someone you don't like'. I do believe, from personal experience, the ultimate test is to come from the heart when it involves someone who's deeply upsetting. It's the test to put all ego aside. While I've been able to come from the heart (a place of love) regarding some of the people who trigger me, there are others where my heart's just not in it. It's usually the seriously self absorbed people I have the most trouble with, the ones whose minds are closed in service to themself. I'm yet to gain the ability to come from the heart, regarding such people who challenge me the most in this way. My wish for them is an open mind, so that they may clearly see how fulfilling service to others can be.

CMF, while you're obviously a very open minded person in so many amazing and beautiful ways (which inspire me), maybe this is part of your natural graduation toward opening it even more. Not sure. Maybe the test is not to get rid of her but to rid yourself of your resentment for her. Perhaps, once that's done she'll leave (test over). I have so many people who test me. Sometimes I pass the tests and sometimes I don't. When I don't pass, 1st, 2nd or 20th time around, I can be left thinking 'Why do I have to do all the hard work in this test, when the other person does little to nothing?'. The answer, 'It's my test, not theirs'.

[CMF]

Hi therising,

I loved your post and this 'Maybe the test is not to get rid of her but to rid yourself of your resentment for her' I would love to open my mind further to manifest for others. I've noticed she has been out & about a bit. She won't wait to meet someone. She has her own business & big circle of friends. I could manifest for her to be out more when I'm there, or for her to not hang around us. I would love for her to meet tge right guy & find happiness.

I reckon I can do what you're suggesting.

Cmf 🙏

[therising]

Hi CMF

My wish for you is that this works wonders and your dreams come true. Will be interesting to hear how it goes. Your progress is always an inspiration to me. The blocks between significant growth spurts can be so challenging, that's for sure.

As mentioned, one of my greatest challenges is opening my heart to those who, for the sake of self preservation, I'm closed off to. It's so hard. Maybe the idea, in this case, is for us to open our hearts to the powers that be, in a state of faith and love. This way, it feels easier. The focus is on the the powers that be, not so much on that person. Much easier to love the universe than it is to love the person we can come to resent. Struggling with resentment a little myself at the moment, so I'll give this a go and we can compare notes perhaps.

All the best as you continue on through your graduation process 🙂