Letting People Down Or Feeling That Way.

Beaser · ‎11-01-2022

Hi and best wishes to everyone. I was wondering do people have feelings of letting people down when they dont feel up to social events. I am lucky to have some great friends and for example i have just been asked to go away for a few days but its just easier to say no . I know that i have to push myself but i have been battling a bit of late and i feel tired and mentally drained. I dont want to lose friends because of not doing things . Im really battling with this problem.

Beaser · ‎03-09-2023

Thank you Ruchju.

So nice of you to take time out to reply to me

You are so right about taking care of yourself as im no good to anyone if im not well myself.

Hope youre day is a great one.

Brett.

Eagle Ray · ‎04-09-2023

Dear Brett,

I’m glad you enjoyed the footy and just helped out as much as you wanted, and also got to catch up with your good friend. I hope yesterday was a lovely day too.

Take care and I hope you have a great week.

Beaser · ‎09-09-2023

Im feeling things a little bit again as i had a bit of a tough week. Some unexpected bills can really hit me. Ive decided to do one day at the footy helping out tomorrow. Dont want to take on too much. Hope everyone is well. Brett

Eagle Ray · ‎09-09-2023

Dear Brett,

I hope today was a good day at the footy. I know unexpected bills can be stressful. I hope you’re feeling a bit better now and enjoy the rest of your weekend. Prioritise whatever you’d most like to do. I’m gradually learning to do that for myself instead of always meeting others’ needs and expectations first. It is really ok to do that.

Take care of yourself,

ER

Beaser · ‎10-09-2023

Thank you Ray.

You are right . People say you have to make an effort and i know that. Its just sometimes things get overwhelming.

Im off to the footy today so i will post about my day.

Thank you again ive always appreciated your replies. I hope you have a happy day.

Brett.

Eagle Ray · ‎13-09-2023

Hello Brett,

I hope Sunday was a good day at the footy. Years ago I was a member of an AFL club and would go to home games with 3 others. I remember the excitement of it. I’m in a country town now and right near the footy oval and hear the games on the weekend. I should go down and watch one day. I do photography and would love to get some good sport action shots.

I hope this week is going ok for you and it’s an easier week than last week.

Take care and all the best,

ER

Elephant86 · ‎14-09-2023

Maybe a good idea is to jion a sports club like a soccer, tennis or basketball. The trick is to make socialising fun and not a chore. What are you interested in maybe it could be yoga or bushwalking . There is a million ways on how to make friends you just have to look under the surface of the water.

Make a list of all the activities you are interested in and also get someone to help you look for social outings. The main thing is not be scared to try new activities to get yourself involved. Another good way to get involved is volenteering in your local community to help others in there time of need. There are many wonderful things you can do to help in your community and remember if everyone does there little bit we will have a more wonderful and magical world.

Maybe you can join the gym and socialise by going for a swim everyday to stay fit and maybe you will make friends. There could be activities at the local library or a book club you can join. There are many great club options you just have to figure out what interests you. Everyone is different and we all enjoy different things because we are all unique. Try to be yourself and don't be nervous because friends will love you for being yourself. Connection with other's is all so important for your wellbeing and your health so have fun and enjoy yourself.

Remember there is only one unique you and you need to share it with the world

Remember everyone is special in there own way.

Beaser · ‎31-10-2023

Feeling a bit lost again.

I have made some real progress by starting a rolll as a volunteer at a Hospital . Just for a few hours a week but feel its a real postive for me.

I was recently invited to go on a fishing trip . Unfortunately my anxiety got the better of me and cancelled this morning . I feel really bad and hope i dont lose any friends over it. I know its good to step up and take on challenges like a have at the hospital. I just get so frustrated that my anxiety gets the better of me but i just cant cope with it . Im very tired of it and hate letting people down because of it. My best wishes to everyone Brett.

Beaser · ‎31-10-2023

I was wondering f people have similar experiences. Brett

Eagle Ray · ‎16-11-2023

Dear Brett,

Yes, I do have similar experiences. I’ve cancelled things too because of anxiety. Sometimes I just get overwhelmed. But I think it’s important not to be hard on yourself. I’m not sure what it’s like for you but sometimes I reach a limit where the emotional energy required to be present with others isn’t fully there, and it’s like my nervous system creates anxiety to tell me that. I seem to have only so much I can do in a day or week and need significant downtime to recharge. Whereas other people can be hyper social and cope with a lot of time doing things with others. I enjoy doing things with others very much, but get easily overwhelmed if I don’t get the downtime. I’ve been going through very strong anxiety lately. Some social interactions actually help when I’m like that and others actually create more anxiety.

Do you find it easier catching up with one or two people compared with a group? I often find I manage better with a couple of people compared to a lot. I feel like if you have good friends they will understand.

That is great you have started the volunteer role in the hospital. You are a kind and caring soul and I’m sure your presence is meaningful to those you come into contact with there. I hope you are enjoying it.

Take care,

ER