Keeping busy

[Gizz_36]

Sometime I might be cleaning or at work and the negative thoughts can sink in. I was at my doctor and he said just don't think about them and try not to dwell on them and sometimes at home I'm cleaning and I get angry about my life but today I put on music as I cleaned is it a better way to deal with bad thoughts.do u just have to accept that life doesn't always go you on way and u might feel better and life might be a bit raised it feels a bit better the noise of the music kind of blocks out the negative thoughts so just asking thanks

[MyLadyGirl]

Gizz, I hope age is a number for you as I hope you don't drift away.

[Gizz_36]

Hi mlg I had a bad couple of months I started going to the gym yesterday and I felt great I had so much energy and had one of the best days at work in a long time didn't feel like everyone was judgeing me exercise really helps how r u hope ur well

[MyLadyGirl]

Hello Gizz,

Care to share what happen with you couple of months? (that is if you feel comfortable) Yes I remember when I was back home in my country I was chubby and I went to gym. Not much if weight lifting but more of a group on exercise work. I did Zumba and cycling. Zumba was tiring and exhausted because I was chubby. Love my cycling as it helps me to loose lots of weight. You are right, when we are in gym no one say things as we one to improve one physical body and shape. But even how much you go to the gym the feelings will always be there. So Gizz, share your feelings what's bothering you.

As for me I went to doctor yesterday. Doctor said I am recovering. I went for a major operation 3 weeks ago. Hence I am unable to do much work (lifting and cooking). It's so sad that I am away from family and no one to help. But all is well. It's weekend, and I am with my video games. I play WoW classic. New at it but will get better.

So what did you do today?

[Gizz_36]

Hi mlg I'm sorry to hear how much u missed ur family it must be tough. I have my family here so I'm pretty lucky.but I don't really see them to much.its pretty hard to make new friends. I went to the gym but u r right didn't feel as good yesterday felt a bit depressed so I drank not to many thought just a couple just to feel better but I'm gonna rest from the gym today and go tomorrow I'll try a build my confidence up I feel that's the only way I can beat it .what's bothering me is that I see my friends that I grew up with are now married kids family etc and I'm alone and miserable no friends no girlfriend cause I feel like I'm being judged god there are some assholes out there.cool I used to play a lot of video games when I was a kid like super Nintendo Mario bros sonic street fighter. Man I miss my childhood,can video games help with problems thanks again for reply

[MyLadyGirl]

Hello Gizz,

Nope video games cannot solve any problems. It's just an entertainment only. I am board at home so I tried new things. Like you going to the gym, I play games and watch tv to ease my loneliness. Why don't you play game. I don't see why you can't as your limiting yourself.

I really understand how you feel seeing your friends are married with kids and you are not. It feel like what is wrong with me. Why I can't have that happiness that they are having. You feel envy and jealous for them. When they invite you, you feel reluctant. My dear friend, you are a special person that you are not aware. Yes they may have a lovely life just as a picture but being in a relationship and in a married life have lots of problems and takes lots of compromise and understanding. It will take time for you to meet a wonderful girl that want to meet a nice guy. Do you know that there are women out there that just want man that are reliable and are seeking for an honest person. It's just that they don't open up because they are afraid like you. Scared of failure and being deceived.

Let me tell you a secret about me. I am not married and I am in my 40s with no kids. Lonely. But I know that there is a man out there for me. Just they don't know where and how to find. So I wait hoping they open their eyes and look for me. In the meantime, I entertain myself for a coffee alone, movie alone and playing games.

Have you tried joining dating side like POF or zook?

[Gizz_36]

Hi mlg thank u again u to are a special caring person and I hope u find someone as for friends the ones I see on Facebook r my high school friends who r married and have kids. They turned their backs on me and ignored me,still wondering what I did wrong for them to turn into jerks.trust me I haven't had a real friend since I was 16.i had one who keeper in contact but he was doing his own thing at the time he made new friends.so I just keep working in a job I hated.had no friends or a girlfriend I've never had a girlfriend I'm 36 now I'm so unhappy I know I'm whinging but it's hard to fit in I had tried dating site but if I have no friends how will a girlfriend treat me u know I'll be judged I hope ur doing well ,I hope u go and see ur family soon hopefully 2020 will be a better year

[MyLadyGirl]

Hello Gizz, I wish 2020 will be a good for you too. What I have learned in life that people come into our life for many reasons. One is to teach us and move on. Have you talked to your friend asking the reason why he is behaving like that? Maybe you need a closure with him. You should not put too much energy of your pass. Be happy for him. Be grateful that he has a family. Let it go. If not you will be sad and uneasy thinking of the pass and not moving forward. You are holding to a friend of your pass not wanting to move on. Eventually as time goes by you will have a friends that will be there.

Who said you do not have friend? I am. Yah I don't drink not smoke but that does not mean we cannot be friend (that is if you want). I am here for you to talk about anything. I will support you as how and as much as I can. Well to tell you the truth I too no friends. My friends are back home busy with families. Here I have zero friends. I know how it is as it feels lonely and if you want to talk or hang around with a friend you don't have.

I know some of the website is for dating and etc but there is some that just want to meet friends. There are some girls do not care a guy having friends. You should not just speculate. Some just want a friend or a loyalty guy. Just try. You might never know who you will try.

Why do you hate your job? Do you have any preferences?

[Gizz_36]

Hi mlg it's been years since my so called friends turned on me I've been alone a long time know I had one of them who looked me up on Facebook but I rejected his request because I member this one time I rang him up and asked if he wanted to do something and go out and he said no I'm sick so I went out to the pub alone later on that night I saw him there with other friends so I didn't feel to good.thank you for being my friend I'll be ur friend aswell what country does ur family live in yeh dating site I'm a bit worried that dating sites are a scam hope u have a good day and chin up

[MyLadyGirl]

I am sorry to hear that your friend were not being a nice person. Just forget him. You are too good for him. Friends will always be friends. They can be nice and meantime back-stab you. That's why true friends are hard to find and I know you will.. Well I am from Malaysia Indian ethic. If you don not try you would not know. Just try and see.. you can ask me if you are afraid off.

[Gizz_36]

I mlg how r u I woke up today and I was lying in bed for about an hour and the I said stuff it I need to get up and get out of the house.so I went to the gym this morning and had a work out 10 mins on the treadmill 5 min riding a bike and lifted weights I think overtime if I go to the gym and change my diet I'll feel better. I had a hard day yesterday at work I think it's the heat . I still feel worried right now but I think I need to talk to someone and go back on the tablets. But I feel being active is a positive step forward so how r u today I hope u start being more active and eat better it might change ur life.it might be hard at first but I heard it get easier as the day turn to weeks and then months and it just get better good luck