Ideas for Xmas on my own

[amamas]

So the big day one week away.

My psych is in my head plan, plan, plan.

So, I've been looking at what I want to do on this very triggering day.  

I want to be by myself.

I want to listen to xmas carols by candlelight on xmas eve.  Wake up xmas morning have a yummy breakfast with the mandatory delicious coffee (from Stomp for any Brissie coffee lovers), watch a DVD, read a book, do some painting, snack on a well presented very tasty cheese platter and just chill out hanging with myself all day.

Does this sound crazy to any readers? To me it sounds marvellous.  I know there is the chance that my mood may drop to -1000 but it will probably go there anyway if I do the norm and hang with family.

I've discussed this with my psych and advice seems to be balance, time with family and self.

I don't know, am I deluding myself into believing I can have a pretty good day hanging with me?

I feel like being around people makes my anxiety and depression so much worse so why not on xmas day give myself the gift of being with me, myself and I?

Any advice, ideas, thoughts much appreciated!

Thanks guys

Cheers Amamas

[Stephen123]

Hi Amamas, I think you,ve just discovered the perfect Christmas! Enjoy!

[joey]

Just do it! I love Christmas - the only thing I hate is other peoples expectations. They seem upset if I am not spending it with family. And then if not with friends well that's so sad. But it's not sad. So what if I enjoy sitting on my own and watching the lights on my Christmas tree. I will still bake a roast turkey - again people are surprised that I would bother just for me. I think I am the one comfortable with myself and it's great to do nice things for yourself so who cares, don't let other peoples judgements affect you. Do what feels right. Joey

[Beetle]

HI Amamas

work half of chrismas and have half the days off. I need some getting together on Christmas otherwise I WILL have a crisis. I can be by myself all other times but I could not do it over x-mas. So I have stuff on x-mas eve and a party x-mas day. I work after that.Good on you planning to be by yourself. I admire you for that. I know myself and know I could not do it. if I I see neighbors and others getting visitors or going places and if I am by myself at home the black dog comes up .Its probably silly but I cant help it.So yeah good on ya amamas-go for it 🙂

Beetle

[Pixie15]

Hi, If you think its right for you do it. But I can hear the clock slowly ticking away the time. I'd be inclined to spend at least some of it sharing a meal and a gift or ignore it completely. Cheers.

[geoff]

dear Amamas, lovely, doesn't that sound to be perfect.

For myself this year I will be doing exactly the same as you, as my youngest lives 9 hours away from me, and he has lost his licence for being .06, so unfortunately I won't see him, and my other son, wife and grand daughter I saw last week end because his boss hasn't told any of the staff whether or not they can have xmas off, which is really unfair for all of them, and he works night shift, so xmas day he will need to sleep.

I will miss seeing all of them, but Marcie enjoyed playing with the toys I gave her, and at the age of almost 2 every toy is great.

All the invisible invitations that I have been offered by 'friends' must have been caught up in the mail, but I wouldn't go anyway, so it's puppie and me.

Amamas, if your mood does drop to 1000, then just think what it would be like if had to go to other functions.

If I remember I will speak to you on xmas day, but I may forget, but enjoy your day all by yourself, oh, peace and quite, beautiful. L Geoff. x

[amamas]

Hey Geoff

Shame you can't be with your boys!

You know what I find so cute about kids Marcie's age.  You can spend ages buying what you think is just the right gift and they'll be beside themselves with joy over the box it came in.  It cracks me up soooo much!!  I'm glad you got to spend some time with her - she sounds really cute!

I'm pretty sure I'm going for the alone time.  I do wish I had a furry friend to hang with though.

Take care, big hugs!

Amamas

[amamas]

Hi guys

Thanks heaps for all your replies and insights!  You've all helped me to see clearer.  I am going to give this to myself.  

It's true I was finding it hard because of what others would think but lets face it they think I'm CRAZY anyway.

I get what some of you mention about spending some time with others but honestly it brings me down.  I've decided to work on my social issues next year.

Thanks again!

Cheers Amamas

[Jo3]

Hey Geoff,

Thinking of you at Christmas time.  It's so tough when your boys are far away and you can't see them.  At least you got to see your son and wife and grand daughter last week.  She must bring you lots of joy and happiness.  I can't wait to be a grandma one day.

I hope you have a nice Christmas Day.  Isn't it a shame we all can't get together as our "online friends".  Wouldn't that be fantastic.  

Anyway, pls take care, and I'll remember to chat to you on Christmas Day.

Jo x

[Jo3]

Hey Amamas

I will be thinking of you on Christmas Day.  And part of me will be jealous!!!

My kids will be home with hubby and I and that's it - no other family or parents.

But i will treasure the time I have with my kids now because one day they will all leave home and it will be different.

I'm sure by the afternoon though, I wish I was you and be on my own!!!!

Take care, I'm sending you my christmas wishes

Jo xx