Cut the rope that binds you

[Luke_4_you]

I thought about my life & when I was young, I often focussed on the trials of life. I didn’t understand that so often a fear or doubt was “tied”, like an invisible rope, back to hurts or “bad times” of the past. This “rope” would control my life. Conscious efforts to overcome it would not work. A few years ago I realised that what controlled me were lies or deceptions that drew my focus to the “ropes”, and that the “ropes” could be cut.
I was able to understand that the hurts, lies, mis-use, manipulation, etc. throughout life often resulted in resentments against the people responsible. Often, old hurts, etc. were hidden and I no longer consciously thought about them.
Quite a few years ago I was given a Christian brochure. "Forgiveness is the power that heals!" ... very simply, if you put your trust in God to accept your forgiveness of those who have wronged you, He will help you with many other benefits. A few days later I opened the brochure and home alone, I decided, "I will give this a go!" I took a large pad and pen and looked up and said, "God, I think I have forgiven everyone, but please reveal to me the names of anyone I need to forgive!"

Almost immediately "Your grandparents", came into my thoughts. My reply was, "What do I have to forgive them for, they died before I was born?" Immediately I "heard", "Because you were cranky at them dying, because you didn't have grandparents like other children!" ... I thought, "Correct!" and started the list.
Over the next hour or so I listed about 30 names (including myself a few times) ... I was amazed how I could recall the names and the circumstances. I then "pictured (as best as I could recall)" each person coming to me. I advised them that I forgave them and told them of the incident(s) that caused me to be hurt. I then directed them to Jesus, Who was sitting on a seat nearby, “He will forgive you as well.”
It took over 2 hours to go through the list. The result, from that day, not a headache, a cold nor a twinge from a previous crippling backache, nor any other illness.
I gave it “a go” and I received amazing results. The brochure I read is available off the internet. Simply key in "Forgiveness the power that
heals".(it was created by Dick Innes, an Australian now living in California). I believed it was going to work and I received! All those ropes/ties holding me back were cut . I didn’t look back, I just keep giving thanks and forgiving anyone else that does me wrong.

[Luke_4_you]

Hi Mrs D,

Yes, some of my posts had to be revised & hopefully will be given the OK to appear. It deeply concerns me to read about the adverse affect the hurts have had on so many & often because the old hurt is "so deep" it is buried & thus not something they can "work on". With me, once I made the decision to "forgive all", many old/deeply buried situations were revealed to me. I reached that point when I learnt from reading, "Forgiveness is the power that heals" & believed that forgiveness is the key. Of course I was totally amazed when the very old situations were revealed to me, but I was thankful as I knew that once forgiven they were "gone" ... cut off & let disappear.

Yes, sometimes others, in good faith seek to "understand" our circumstances & offer answers, but from my own experiences, finding a quiet spot, believing I was going to be helped, compiling a list & then forgiving (I just recalled .... I also then crossed each one off the list ... it was an act of closure) worked for me ... I knew I was free & was thankful.

Luke 4 you.

[Guest_1055]

Hello Luke, This is something we were given at a support group that I attend:

There is Power in Forgiveness
Strategy:

Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to you. Take your power back from those who have hurt you.
Hate, anger and resentment are destructive, eating away at the heart and soul of the person who carries them. They are absolutely incompatible with your own peace, joy and relaxation. Ugly emotions change who you are and contaminate every relationship you have. They can also take a physical toll on your body, including sleep disturbance, headaches, back spasms and even heart attacks.....


Forgiveness sets you free from the bonds of hatred, anger and resentment. The only way to rise above the negatives of a relationship in which you were hurt is to take the moral high ground, and forgive the person who hurt you......

Forgiveness is not about another person who has transgressed against you; it is about you. Forgiveness is about doing whatever it takes to preserve the power to create your own emotional state. It is a gift to yourself and it frees you. You don't have to have the other person's cooperation, and they do not have to be sorry or admit the error of their ways. Do it for yourself.....

I am finding your thread very encouraging, because your topic is close to my own heart.

Shell

[Starwolf]

Thank you for your reply, Luke 4 you.

I'm with you...as limited beings, our sphere of direct influence is necessarily small. But then the ripple effect kicks in, spreading in ever widening circles.

And yes, here we are, wanting to learn about the workings of the Universe and yet there's still so little known about the workings of the human mind. Strange priorities...

[Ken1]

Good on you for sharing what you've learned with others! I'm sure the woman you spoke with met some great revelations when writing her own list.

Definitely a huge lesson few will learn to adopt.

[Luke_4_you]

Yes Shell,

Your words will be a great guide for people who want to be free of the suffering they bear when "wrongs" are not forgiven ... as I realised, it wasn't by any "grit, determination & effort" that we can forgive it is a willingness to do it knowing/expecting the freedom will be received .... thus, the next time a hurt is suffered we are keen to be free of it ... not as in the past ... hanging onto it & incur the hurt for a long while (like I said, "quickly get the pebble out of your shoe & the hurt stops!"

A great post Shell.

Luke 4 you.

[Luke_4_you]

Yes Starwolf,

And as you are freed, people, especially those close to you or you have frequent contact will notice ... your ripples will spread out ... & they will ask, "What's happened to you? Lately I've noticed you smile a lot more ..... etc., etc.,"

You will only be too glad to share the good news & I guarantee they will appreciate it ... either for their own to apply it or a family member, friends, etc.

Good one Starwolf .... 1 tells 2, the 3 tell 6, ... the power of multiplication!

[Luke_4_you]

Hi Ken 1 (you have a great smile)

I believe that more & more will want to share the great news & freedom ... good news travels fast, plus as they get feed-back from those they shared with, more joy is created & thus the people want to help others ... this is a basic human nature .... laugh & the world laughs with you ... weep & you weep alone!

Plus we enjoy getting appreciation .... knowing that we have helped a fellow human being.

I am truly believing that already the "ripples" from our posts are spreading out to many others.

Luke 4 you

[Doolhof]

Hi Luke,

I am reading your posts with great pleasure and gaining from your wisdom. As I understand the rules and regulations of this forum, I am wondering if there may be a Christian forum you could connect to as well where you could share more of your beliefs freely as well as continuing to encourage people here.

Your words have a much deeper meaning to people with a belief in God. Forgiveness and letting go is very beneficial for us all, some people do have trouble accepting the benefits of it and feel so deeply hurt by others they can not begin to imagine how to let go.

There is so much I would like to share with you, but realise this is not the place to do so.

Wishing you well, from Mrs. D.

[Luke_4_you]

Hi Jess F,

I have just reviewed the posts & although I did reply to you some days ago, it didn't get published ... I may have missed seeing the "please edit" notice. My apologies.

Re forgiving - as I was a very young child when I had resentment for my Grandparents not being in my life, it was because I PERCEIVED that as a wrong because I was missing out on what I had wanted. I wasn't blaming them for dying but by forgiving, I was "cutting the tie to them" & letting them drift away. The effect was to cut the tie to the focus of my childhood resentment ... we were both freed.

I only followed the directions I was supplied with. It is the end result that counts.

Thanks, Luke 4 you.

[Luke_4_you]

Good morning Ken1,

My original reply must have got caught in the "system".

I learnt that as we travel through life, we can't keep dragging behind us, or carrying all the troubles that we have encountered ... we need to, as I described, "cut the rope" to all the things we don't want.

As I am typing, I just recalled listening to a very old man back I few years before my "forgiveness episode" ... I was in a group meeting (I see it now as part of the path to where I am now) & he said, "My secret to life is travelling with a lot less bags & gear ... that way the trip is far more enjoyable & you get there faster!"

It took my "forgiveness episode" to let me identify the unwanted baggage I needed to leave behind ... prior to that I didn't actually realise I had them ... just that life was a "bit burdened".

If I quickly forgive, I cut the "rope" so I don't have to carry that extra bag.

Thanks,

Luke 4 you.