Married and same sex attracted

[Jay1962]

Hi Married and Questioning Guy,

I’m a married man in my 60s, living in Australia, and I’m quietly exploring a side of myself I’ve kept hidden for most of my life — my attraction to men.

I’ve built a good life, been a devoted husband, and raised a family I love deeply, including an adult son. But for a long time now, I’ve felt a growing ache — not just for physical touch, but for emotional closeness and authentic connection with another man.

I’m not here for hook-ups, porn, or anything reckless. I’m looking for understanding, conversation, maybe even friendship with other men who know what it’s like to live between two worlds — one built around love and loyalty, and another filled with quiet longing and questions.

If this resonates with you — if you’ve been there, or are still there — I’d really appreciate hearing from you. Just to know I’m not alone, and maybe walk a little of this journey together.

Thanks for reading.

—Jay

[Croix]

Dear Jay1962~

Welcome here to the Forum, to have lived your life keeping one part of yourself hidden must have been very difficult at times, and now you  have a problem many have.

So much depends upon the makeup of you family and their views. You obviously love and value them great deal and it would a tragedy for you to be separated from them

It is also a tragedy if you never get the chance to explore all of yourself. Without suggesting you be any way underhanded do you see any way of combining the two?

You can scroll though the People like me / Sexuality and gender identity Section of the  Forum and see how others have handled the situation.

Perhaps you might like to visit QLIFE and talk with a counselor or other people with similar experiences. Thay may have many ideas how best to go about things.

Croix