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Gay boys and their mothers.

Gruffudd
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I haven't been around here for a while, life got complicated for a while. 

Sometimes when I have really needed it mum has been there, she listens and loves, not many people have done that in my life. Then there are the times she needs the same and this is one of them. The second marriage has broken down. He never liked me because I am gay and because mother and I seem to get along better then he does with his children. At christmas it all got a bit uncomfortable, he told mum that she was not allowed to see her grandchildren and my brother and I because he doesn't approve of us and he can't cope. I don't much like the idea that disliking me was tolerable but the rest of the family was the deal breaker, never mind though. It has been a long time coming and there has been a lot of bullying and controlling behaviour which upsets awfully. What can a boy do but be there, travel a few hours after work, listen, explain how to rent a house to a mother who never has, move furniture, garden... After these two months she has made a move, is more herself then in years. I feel some conflict for being happy that this change happened, but I just don't like seeing her so unhappy. It doesn't help with the "all men are..." sentiment. Next stop Paris on holidays with mother I think. 

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Kazzl
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Good lordy Paul!! The RER train from Paris to Versailles is about 7 Euro for a round trip! And if you go at the right time of day you get to share it with loads of French tradies coming home from work. 

Sorry, I'll shut up now - I'm at risk of being a travel bore ... and I'm s'posed to be working. 

Just one more, sorry, re flirting - which I didn't of course - I got chatted up twice just outside the Louvre, by a delicious young Frenchman and then by a strange effusive Italian. As I was mid-40s and very married the time, it made my day! Then I came home and a friend said it wasn't unusual and they probably wanted a sponsor to help them emigrate to Australia. Hmmmphhh! 

 

Paul
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Good lordi indeed Kaz!

I was with my ex at the time and he turned his nose up at public transport. Hedonistic snob.

I was entertaining a frenchman one time and we were having a bit of a pash and he says "Ohh I want you" I replied with "Ohh I've got to go" His accent really didn't tickle my fancy.

Wheeeee!

 

Pxx

Gruffudd
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Oh Kaz, I am not one to spoil a memory, I would definitely go with them being friendly and effusive. No harm done. 

Paul, I am no public transport snob, that is why I can be found on the train to Melbourne after all. Mother and I have always enjoyed that aspect of travel. 

 

Kazzl
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I love that you are unapologetically stubborn Rob. I relate to that, being of Irish descent every which way I turn. It gets me into trouble sometimes but too bad, I'm always right, even when I'm not. 😃

My youngest daughter also has a stubborn streak and it serves her well. She's a gentle, kindly soul who could be mistaken for someone you could take advantage of. But you can only push her so far before you find a stubborn steely resolve. It's reassuring as a mum to know that's there. I bet your mum feels that way about your stubbornness. Tis a good thing.

xx