Dear Notsure~
Welcome here to hte Forum, good place to get other's perspectives.
No, you are certainly not the only man who cross dresses, and by itself is not problem. it becomes a problem when others are involved
Actually you might be a little unusual in explain this to your prospective wife, in its way an excellent thiung as it get rid of the real harm that can happen, letting lies to cover up.
Your wife accepted you and that may have seemed the end of the matter, however it may be you wife felt there was some sort of shame in this from hte start, and when your daughter saw you it was no longer a private matter.
I'm sorry it developed a serious split between hte two of you and am unsure what you can do at the moment. Rather I think it may rest upon your daughter's attitude.
Do you think you are in a position to talk it over wiht her -you are hte same father she has known all her life, it is simply that there is osmething she did not know about, even though her mother did.
It does not change you, you still love her and your mother -and any other family, and it does not imply you are going to change in any way, become gay or trans or whatever she may be apprehensive about. This situation, admittedly wihtout her knowledge, has been stable for over 40 years.
You may like to explain that this has caused a heart-wrenching rift between her mother and you after 40 years and she has a possibility of healing heal that rift.
If you think it would help you might remind her that just in the celebrity world there are many who cross dress at times, from Lady Ga Ga to David Bowie
Do you have anyone to support you in this and simply listen and care? Trying to face this alone is very hard
You might try our 24/7 help line to see if they can recommend a resource that may give you more facts or the chance to talk to others in the same circumstances.
You can also try QLIFE who may be able to point you to resources you could show your family to educate and reduce anxiety
You know you are always welcome here
Croix
