my boyfriend left me. context: hes been my best friend for 4 years and boyfriend for 1.5 years
I kept the relationship a secret for 1.5 years, and finally told my parents (kept it from them for cultural and religious reasons). after telling them that i will fight for him, against their wishes, they had no choice but to accept my choice. this was extremely hard to do, but i did it for him.
I made a promise to him, to tell him and keep him informed on everything my family says. My family said they dont like that his parents are uneducated, despite him being educated, and therefore they think he would have different values and ethos to us because of this.
After telling him this, he felt beyond disrespected, and having valued his family so much he decided to leave me. He couldnt be with me because he knows that in order to be with me, it means choosing me over his family in his head. It means accepting what my parents said about his.
We are very much in love, soul tied, but cannot be together because of this. For him, a moral line was crossed. After all the fighting i did for him, for it to end like this kills me. I had no control over anything and now im left in excruciating pain, wondering how to process and move on.
i know the first step is starting to accept and respect his decision, which to me means not reaching out and remaining in no contact. However, I cannot escape this unbearable feeling that I lost the one. My best friend for life is gone. Help.
