Dear Von is lost~
Welcome back, I'm sorry to read things are not going as smoothly as you might like. Looking at your previous posts it seems as if you have had at least as much time in a long distance relationship as time actually being together
They are of course different things to different people, but none is the same as physically being together. You have tried to talk to him about moving in together, and also about changing work so this becomes possible -something that would involve a risk for one of you at least.
To get non committal or even back tracking talk on previous plans does not sound encouraging. You are doing the right thing by trying to talk things through but is does not seem to be working. There is no eagerness, which one would expect.
My own view of a relationship is a partnership where each enjoys the company of the other, wants to be with them, sees to their welfare and happiness, and stands by them in times of trouble - they have you back.
Just going on what you have said this does not appear to be happening. If he won't talk , does not seem eager to be with you and make plans you are stuck and if it was me I'd be wondering if while the long term relationship seemed to work, actually being together may not.
You may be tempted to force the issue by leaving your job and moving closer, however that means it is you that is making the assumptions, taking the risks, and the heavy lifting, and that might be an idea to think over before doing as you may end up in a worse situation than now.
Do you have anyone in your life to talk all this over with? A family member or friend perhaps? Just having someone to talk to and maybe lend a new perspective can make a big difference.
If you would like to talk more or let us know how you get on that would be great
Croix
