Property settlement for a 6 year marriage

[Chillwind]

I was in a 6 and a bit year marriage, we had no kids, she made no contributions to the marriage, I never had any joint bank accounts or assetts with her, I supported her adult daughter through University.

In 2018 I decided to take money from my super and buy an apartment to use as a rental, I was going to put the apartment into a Trust company, 

The wife found out and went to the family court had my accounts frozen ex-parte, 

At the hearing the magistrate said I could still buy the apartment in my own name and the ex-wife and her adult daughter could move in there. The court said the decision for her to pay rent would be made at the next hearing but no decision was made. 

now 5 years later I am informed that a trial date for next April has been set, 

These last few weeks have been very difficult for me, the anger is building up I worry I will lose control.

[white knight]

Hi welcome

It is a stressful period for you Chillwind.

There's a common saying "dont worry about what is beyond your control". 

In the old days a partner would be entitled to 50% of all assets after 2 years living together, that has changed a lot and past finances prior to living together are taken into account. Now it doesnt necessarily work out fully fair for someone in your situation however it is how its going to be, so let the court decide and dont waste 8 months of your life worrying about it.

The important thing is you will be able to get on with your life having severed the relationship and had a resolution. That is something to look forward to. In future have a agreement drawn up with a solicitor.

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TonyWK

[Chillwind]

Hi 

Thanks, I appreciate the advise, and like I said above its been 5 and a half years, I have done a lot of research spoke to a number of family lawyers around the country, got second opinions, I do have a general understanding of property settlement in a 6 year marriage. 

as the trial comes up I cant seem to shake the anger of why its come to this, 

Thanks again

[white knight]

I've had 3x long term relationships all over 7 years prior to this 12 year happy marriage. It is always the same, confusion mainly but humans are complex. Also the "swing" that partners can throw at you can be mind boggling... from nice loving etc to full on enemy.

In each case I've found time to be the best healer and distraction. Trying to work ex partners out is often a waste of energy. Selfishness, greed and/or revenge are often the reasons.

TonyWK