Pregnant and break up

[mof2]

I’m 5 months pregnant and the relationship has ended.

I feel panic. He talked me out of getting a termination earlier, he strung me along and now i feel like I wish I had gone with my gut instinct. Now the relationship has ended.

I tried to get an termination but the hospital has made it very difficult and made me wait 3 weeks I got a pregnant Dr who guilted me about the termination and when I said you have now denied this she was taken aback. I was sure I wanted it.
 

I don’t want this baby. I don’t know how to cope. This is a nightmare. I have a toddler and I’m going through a divorce this is going to impact me and my other child financially. 
 

meanwhile I haven’t had any support from this baby father and haven’t heard from him. I can’t sleep. 

[Sophie_M]

Dear mof2
 
Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums we are so glad that you have made you way here and had the bravery to post. We want you to know that this is a safe space to discuss your thoughts, feelings and experiences and receive honest responses and suggestions from fellow forum users.
 
We can hear the dilemma you are facing and truly hope that you are reaching out to as many supports as you possibly can right now.  Whilst you wait for a response to your thread here, we thought you might like to refer to the following resource on supporting the mental health and wellbeing of expecting Mums:

PANDA on 1300 726 306

It really does help to talk so please know that we are also here 24/7 on 1300 22 4636 or via our WebChat.  Our team who answer the phones are ready to have a supportive and non-judgmental chat whenever you need it.
 
We’re sure to hear from some of our lovely community members here on your thread soon. They’re a really amazing community, and will have understanding, advice and kind words for you.  Thanks again for sharing. It’s a powerful and brave first step towards feeling better.
 
Regards 
 
Sophie M
 

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Mof2 

Thanks for your honesty and reaching out.Sophie has suggested helpful resources. 

I can u derstand yiu are worried about your child and the pregnancy. 
Being pregnant can be difficult at any time but with a recent break up a toddler and little support it must be all consuming. 
Are you getting pre natal support.?

Keep posting if you want to. We are listening and you are not alone. 

[geoff]

Hello Mof2, I'm sorry in are caught up in this awkward situation, especially with the father disappearing and ending the relationship, even though he encouraged you to keep the pregnancy.

If you are in Vic there is an adoption agency, and I'm sure this applies with other States, where you can talk with someone about this happening as soon as the baby arrives.

These people may also help you with explaining to your other child where the baby has gone to, or may be your doctor can direct you somewhere to assist you.

This is basically not fair on you, someone getting you to this stage and wanting to keep the pregnancy, but then deciding to leave.

Please let us know how you get on, so we can try and help you further.

Geoff.

Life Member.