New mum. Hard time
Firstly, just want to say congratulations on the little one.
I have seen more recently how hard new parents are struggling to cope with everything that is currently going on when they have a new baby enter their lives. It is tough I understand that. I am not a mum so I may not be the best for advice on this particular scenario but I wanted to reach out and offer my support, especially if you just want someone to speak too.
My question for you is have you ever thought about going to see your GP about these feelings and possibly speaking to a psychologist? Just a thought.
My best for you,
Hi Tashi, it sounds like you're having a really tough time right now! Being a new mum is really, really hard at times. Even though we love our babies it can be frustrating, boring and exhausting. You are absolutely not alone, I remember feeling exactly the same, and every other mum I know did too at some point. One thing I did that helped in those early days was to join a playgroup. It helped me to get out of the house and meet other mums and I made some great friends. It also helped to normalise what I was feeling. You can also get support and help through your early childhood clinic and your GP. I had postnatal depression with my first baby and I never got it treated as I thought I was somehow wrong to feel that way. I wish so much I had spoken to a health professional and actually got help back then! I wasted so much time on feeling bad! So please don't hesitate to get some advice on that. I can 100% guarantee that things get easier and better as your baby older and you will feel like yourself again. I promise! Sending you lots of good thoughts xx
My wife (ex) also suffered from PND which then developed into me having it as well, but her
Are you able to go to your local community
They may suggest you go and see your doctor and then refer you onto a psychologist, this is something my wife never wanted to do. Geoff.
Tashi, Hello. A new baby brings joy and exhaustion while your life is changed. This can be very confusing for you and your Fiancé.
Em74 has given some good advice. I found playgroup a great place to chat to other mothers and we are still in touch many years later. When you talk honestly to other young mums you will find you are not alone. I remember feeling that every other mother seemed to be coping better than I was until I spoke to them and found that they felt like I did.
Thanks for starting this thread and I hope to hear how you are going. Your son is lucky to have such a caring mum.
Tashi sleep deprivation and exhaustion are real things and a GP would listen and be understanding.
Would it be possible to contact your mother.
Do try a couple of mother's groups/ playgroups to find one you feel comfortable with.
Thanks for letting us know how you are going.