Hi Assaad and thanks for coming back to the forums.
What an usual question! My first thought reading your thread title was she is a person not a prize to win.
Maybe this sounds harsh to you. If so I apologise. But in my view if a man is acting like a player I'm going to think that is exactly what he is (a player).
You talked about playing the nice guy and playing the serious guy. And making women fall for you. That's all great if you're a player and all you're after is a casual fling. But for something more.... Not going to cut it.
How about dropping the act and just being you? Or being honest and telling her you like her company and are looking to try something long term with her if she is keen. Just let her know you're interested and then leave it up to her to choose. By all means flirt and have fun but just stop persuing her actively.
Give her a chance to get to know you without performing or pressuring (which to be honest often feels like a ploy just to get a woman into bed).
No judgement here by the way. I just mean in the current state of the world a lot of women are wary of the player attitude. You sound genuine but I just wanted to show you another perspective. No idea if it will help.
Kindest,
Nat
