My wife Left me Sept 21st
Im a latecomer to your thread...You are strong even though your separation was just last year and you are supporting others very well too
If I may say you are an amazing guy and its great to have you as part of the Beyond Blue forum family too 🙂
My Best for you Brad
Hey Brad just read a few of your posts and they have been pretty uplifting.My partner walked out on me six weeks ago saying she needs to pursue a spiritual path and in six months she will tell me if our relationship is worth saving.Just a few questions how long were you on the anti-depressants for ?. I am a keen surfer and swimmer but have lost interest in them both .How do you find the motivation to go to gym . You got any tricks for just concentrating on myself and not my ex.
Many thanks Jason
Well to be honest i started off by going to the gym, then i found a personal trainer. My personal trainer comes round and makes me exercise even when im not in the mood 😛 Thing is i feel/felt much better after each session 🙂 I was on the anti depressants for a few months ,they helped to a degree .I just don't know how much ,cause i could still feel everything.I do know they helped.Side effects for me were none. Guess i was lucky.
And tricks for concentrating on yourself? Just spoil yourself.Be selfish.Go out and do stuff that you've always wanted to do.Treat yourself,spend money on yourself .Do whatever you want that makes you happy.. as long as its all about YOU.
Another update.. Ive recently taken my phone off the hook so when my wife calls it goes straight to the answering machine. Right now i don't want to talk to her. I will speak to her on my own terms when im ready.
I just checked the messages and i got a missed call from her number. Shes calling me from her work at 11 am ? Its starting to really bother me that she is calling me so much now. I don't like being the B plan backup guy cause the relationship with the guy she left me for isn't working out.. i really dont like it. As you can tell my wife bothers me 😛
Whats your normal process for dealing with anger? For example mine is a combination of things: I get huffy, blast some music, write down my feelings, talk about it a lot and I see my therapist. I know there’s a few things there but maybe look at how you’ve felt with anger in the past and it will give you a bit of a guide? I feel like realizing you are so angry at your wife still is one of the first steps. I know you like to work out, maybe boxing?
Hey t(here) Yeah it helps to a point the boxing.. Well theres further development about my wife..
Last time i spoke to her i said "Never Ever Call me again Ever!" its been a week and a half and she calls me.. Tells me shes found a cleaner/baby sitter to help me out... asks me how my son is etc.. Then hangs up the phone quickly as her boyfriend arrives home.. my questions is WHY? I thought i made myself clear... she bothers me... Cause i don't know what shes doing..