Dear ZARA73~
Sometimes people, even those who love, can simply fail to understand how another feels. Often it is the limitation of experience, if the event is outside their life them there is nothing in common. Sometimes it can be helpful to compare to some other event , a miscarriage, the death of a parent/child or other grief-ridden matter. Other times the gulf is simply too wide.
Do you think your mother does care but is stuck as to what to say? A I'm sure you would realize this not only makes what they say too little and maybe seeming heartless or unrealistic, but also discourages from them from venturing there in the fist place.
Some people have tried letters, setting out their difficulties and heart-break in detail, others have invited the other to attend their councilor or doctor so a third party can explain.
I will mention that Relationships Australia not only helps those in a relationship or separation but also those that are dealing with the aftermath. You might care to give them a ring in your state or territory. Talking to those with experience can greatly help at times.
You are not alone, and can talk here whenever you like
Croix
