Moving in with boyfriend

[Von is lost]

My boyfriend has been overseas for the last four months and we’ve been able to continue developing our relationship. We will have been dating for a year in September, and circumstances mean that logistically it would be a good time to move in together when he gets back in a few weeks. I’ve never lived with a partner before but we feel solid, however I’m worried about messing anything up. Any advice on how to know when it’s good to move in together?

[smallwolf]

hello and welcome,

I understand how you might be excited and nervous at the same time! It's a big step moving in with someone, especially after a long distance relationship. It's totally okay to be nervous! This is a big change, and it's important to be honest with yourself and your boyfriend about how you're feeling. Don't feel pressured to move in together just because it seems convenient.

Have you considered a trial run? Maybe a weekend getaway or a short stay together could give you a taste of what living together might be like before taking the plunge.

At the end of the day (hate that cliche) there's no perfect timeline for moving in together. The most important thing is that you both feel comfortable and confident in the decision.

But perhaps the most important thing would be open and honest conversations about what living together would look like?

Listening if you want to chat more ...