Hi op.
Personally l wouldn't set some day and time she could start dreading it it'd probably just add pressure. l'd just try to make myself cut back to just once a wk or even 2 wks any day any time but try to let it just evolve at a nice or better time for you both. Ex w and l often use to talk for example later at night or in bed but it'd just kind of happen when it did. ps , she's not ex bc of that btw ha ha- nother story. But we did most of our talking about anything in that kind of way but def not when she's or you are just too tired and done for the day.
You can train yourself to start holding back on it all the rest of the time well that worked well for me once l started being a bit firmer on myself anyway. lt's just too draining on the other and unfair otherwise they need our support for their life and things too.
l'd also strongly suggest just trying to be more positive in just everyday life and chatter with her too. For yrs l was such a downer and l didn't realize how exhausting it must've been but once l did l really made efforts to just be more positive and supportive and talkitave with her about whatever too and it made a huge difference and also helped me snap out of my crap too.l still do now to this day as we're still often in touch for my daughter and things. Better late than never right.
Anyway , l hope your on the improve .
Good luck
rx
